Every day we see a lot of pictures of beautiful, successful, rich - perfect (as they seem) - people, who have it all! They don't need to have a job, deal with stress and lack of money. They can catch a plane (sometimes even personal one) and start an unplanned vacation in a place that looks like a paradise. Girls are always skinny, tan and gorgeous and guys look like Greek Gods no less. Such pictures are so popularized nowadays that young people consider it some kind of norm, the real way life is supposed to look, They are supposed to look. The moment they get back to reality is usually painful. Some imperfections which are natural begin to look for them like a disaster of a global scale. As a sister of 14 y.o. teenage-girl I know what I'm talking about :D They're trying to lose weight on crazy diets, have their video blogs, copying fashionable now bloggers and so on...

Actually, not long ago I used to be like this as well... I didn't want to be original, to be really myself. To some extent, I was even afraid of it. I guess that people have always been scared to show their individuality cause it might be rejected by society. Thanks God for those risky exceptions, otherwise we'd still be cave-people... Unfortunately, today this tendency to look as close to the "ideal" as possible is even more notable than before. Amazing creation of the mankind - Instagram - gave young girls (they are more subjected to this kind of influence) an inexhaustible source of "inspiration". Makeup hacks that make all kinds of faces look the same, killing their real natural beauty; "fashion trends" girls wear just cause it's mainstream instead of choosing the best solution for their body types; million identical selfies...

Let me be clear here - I am for embracing individuality! It’s great to be yourself, to love yourself. But that love isn’t just about simple accepting, it’s about change as well. You need to understand that You must get better, must develop and evolve, but not in order to be like or better than someone else out there. To be better, than You were 5 minutes, a day, 10 weeks, 20 years ago - that’s Your real goal. You need to feel comfortable with yourself, that is very important! If you have some extra weight, for example, and don't feel like it’s your «comfort zone», then start changing yourself. If you’re okay with being a bit bigger - just embrace it! No need to push yourself into those «beauty frames» society is trying to impose on us! After all, fashion and most of people around just come and go and at the end of the day you stay alone with yourself - person you must love to be truly happy…

One more thing girls are so worried about - «no one’s gonna love me the way I am»… And that’s bullshit, my dears. Sure, to attract someone we must take care of ourselves, but it’s basic stuff that shouldn’t be even discussed. All other things - your personality, general appearance, ideals and views - all of it can be loved by someone even if it’s not perfect! Actually, sometimes - especially if it’s not perfect. You can’t imagine my surprise when I’ve got the best compliments from a guy when he saw me without makeup… And I was sure that even Nessy is more attractive than me! Now I’m sure that famous phrase «Beauty is in the eye of the beholder» is a life wisdom. You never know how other people see you. Of course, it’s impossible to be loved and considered beautiful by everyone.

But do you really need it? Can’t having a person, who sees you the best in the world, be enough to be happy? And for that you don’t need to kill You inside yourself, kill your individuality! On the contrary - show off with it! Make it «lighthouse» to help that «beholder» find you as soon as possible!

Best regards,

Dasha Explorer