It can be devastating when we experience a break up, a separation, or divorce. In some sense, we are grieving a loss. We may feel as though we have lost part of ourselves and our identity. It's only natural.

There's a reason they call it finding your "other half". However, not all relationships work out. There are many reasons as to why, but when faced with the end of a romantic relationship, many of us have a tendency to stop caring for ourselves.

We can sometimes neglect our health when experiencing heartache and heartbreak. We notice we don't have as much of an appetite. We feel restless, trapped inside our own minds, tortured by our thoughts and emotions.

It's during this time that we need to care for ourselves most. Failing to do this will only cause more hurt and suffering in the long run and could set us up for more serious health issues in the future.

This is not an exhaustive list, and you may have some of your own ideas as to what will help you deal with the pain you are going through. However, here are 12 simple ways to care for and enjoy yourself while you begin the healing process.

1. Binge On Your Favorite TV shows // Movies

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No matter how down I'm feeling, when I put my favorite movie or TV show on, I can't help but smile (even if it's just a little).

2. Eat Good Comfort Food

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We should take care not to go overboard with this one by binging on junk food. Some of our favorite comfort foods might even be things that are considered healthy.

3. Reading // Listening to Music

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Sometimes escaping into a different world for a little while can help get you out of your own head. Getting into a good story or singing your heart out to your favorite songs can be therapeutic.

4. Showers // Baths

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Everyone knows how good a hot shower feels or how relaxing it can be to soak in a bubble bath. The water has a cleansing and calming effect on our minds and our spirits, allowing us to release our emotions and clear our minds.

5. Hang Out With Family + Friends

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Family and friends can be amazing sources of support, provided you allow them to be. Even though it may sound better to shut the world out, give yourself a break and surround yourself with people who love and care about you.

6. Writing

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Another therapeutic way to release those emotions is to get them down on paper. Studies have shown that expressive writing is incredibly beneficial to your long-term health.

7. Get Good Rest

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Having a set schedule is important. Waking up early and going to bed at a decent hour will help you feel more focused and refreshed. You'll be able to face the day a little more easily with a good night's sleep.
Besides, who doesn't love to sleep?

8. Exercise

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Exercising releases endorphins, triggering a positive feeling in the body. Talk about a natural high! Even if you only do 30 minutes of exercise each day, it's worth it. You can start small -- no need to take on more than your body can handle.

9. Stay Hydrated

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This one pretty much speaks for itself. If you live in a really warm climate like me, it's even more vital to stay hydrated. If you're doing a lot of crying, unfortunately your body is losing a lot of water by shedding all those tears.

10. Reach Out // Get Support

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If you're getting too overwhelmed by sadness or other negative emotions, it's okay to reach out for help and support. Socializing will help improve your outlook and your mood. It can be tempting, but try not to isolate and withdraw too much!

11. Get A Makeover // Go Shopping

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One thing that really helped me out was trying to get my confidence back up -- by changing my whole look! Dye your hair, try a new makeup technique, go buy a new outfit, get a makeover. You don't need to break the bank in the process, and it's a great way to boost your self-esteem.

12. Take An OTC Painkiller

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Believe it or not, taking a painkiller like Tylenol or Ibuprofen has actually been shown to help ease feelings of heartbreak/heartache. Don't overdo it with these, though. I'm not telling you to pop a pill every time you feel sad. However, if you have tried other things and still can't find relief, give it a try. Just don't make it a habit!

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In summary,

  • Find something to do to stay occupied.
  • Take care of your body and be kind to yourself.
  • Don't isolate too much -- reach out for support.

And in case no one else has told you today, I love you.

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If you are having thoughts of suicide, please talk to someone. No love is worth taking your life over.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255

The deaf and hard of hearing can contact the Lifeline via TTY at
1-800-799-4889.