If your "glass is always half empty" then it's time to rebuild. We will tell you how to learn to think positively and why you need it.

It is in fairy tales that the princes fall in love with the gloomy and mysterious Tsarevnas Nesmeyan, but in real life, the guys prefer jolly laughs who sparkle with happiness, laugh and, like magnets, attract people with a smile. It seems that it is easier for optimists to live in general in everything: they easily get to know each other, quickly experience failures, achieve everything ... But what if you are an inveterate pessimist and are used to seeing the bad in everything? The answer is simple and obvious: "unseen" this negative, girl ๐Ÿ˜œ

Of course, you will not be able to sharply become an optimist, but there are special techniques that will help you begin to readjust to a positive wave. As reported by WebMD, people who often experience positive emotions are less likely to get sick and are less prone to depression. In short, there are quite a few reasons to add bright colors to your life. And the easiest and most proven way to do this is to learn the correct positive thinking.

  • What is positive thinking?

In simple words, positive thinking is an optimistic attitude, more precisely, it is the practice of focusing on the good in any (even unpleasant and difficult) situation.

This does not mean that, trying to think positively, you have to ignore reality or take problems lightly, no! This attitude only means that everything that happens to you should be approached with the expectation of a happy ending. Positive thinking is not magic or a miracle, it will not rid you of all your problems. But it will help to realize that even in difficulties you can find a positive side.

  • The pros of positive thinking
Life expectancy increases;
Decreases the likelihood of a heart attack;
The body's resistance to colds increases;
Stress becomes subject to your control;
Problems are much easier to solve;
Thinking becomes clearer;
Depression decreases (or leaves you altogether);
Creative skills develop better.
  • How to deal with negative thoughts?

The math is simple: to start thinking positively, you need to stop thinking negatively. Most likely, you cycle on unpleasant and small flaws instead of trying to find positive moments in any situation.

  • What prevents you from thinking positively?
You focus your attention on the negative.

That is, you behave like Nancy Drew, who goes everywhere with a magnifying glass. I noticed a speck or something suspicious - that's it, you can no longer relax and enjoy the good. For example, you were enjoying a fun dinner with friends, but the restaurant returned the wrong bill (they included additional meals). You swear and find out why this happened, and then you return home annoyed and frustrated, forgetting how well you had the time before the incident.

You often take the blame on yourself.

You constantly blame yourself for everything you can. For example, a boyfriend canceled a meeting under the pretext of a headache, and you, of course, decided that he didn't want to see you.

You always expect bad things.

You live in some kind of anticipation of an impending disaster. If you fail, you certainly believe that something worse is about to happen. Or do you see signs in all breakdowns and small surprises. For example, in the morning the door is stuck? This means that the day will be doomed to failure.

You divide the world into black and white.

You believe that there are only two concepts: "good" and "bad". There are no intermediate points and "gray" options. Of course, with this attitude, if something is not perfect, it automatically becomes terrible.

Are all points about you? Then it's time to readjust to a positive wave :)

As soon as you catch yourself on a negative thought, try to stop developing it. Shift your attention to the positive. Think about the situation rationally and from a different angle. The first time will be difficult, and negative thoughts will not disappear overnight. But with practice, you can accustom yourself to a more positive outlook. Remember, you don't lose sight of the facts, you just prioritize the good.

  • How to develop correct positive thinking?

Once you learn to overcome negative thinking, you can start teaching yourself positive thinking. And remember again: you have nowhere to rush. With a snap of your fingers, you cannot become content and optimistic. Just relax and repeat some of the methods below. After a while, you will be surprised at the result ๐Ÿ˜

{Smile often

A number of studies have shown that people feel more positive when they smile (even fake) while performing a strenuous task. Of course, a sincere smile will do much more good. So try to watch more stand-ups, have fun with your friends, and spend a couple of minutes a day looking for memes. After a while, you will begin to get used to smiling and ... you can't get away from this magnet for those around you :)

Look for the pros

Bad things happen. And when the next one happens, try not to get discouraged and lie on the floor with the motto โ€œlife is painโ€. Assess the positive aspects of the situation. They are 100% there, for example:

The guy cheated on me - it's bad. But I found it out and now I know for sure that I do not want and will not meet with a person capable of betrayal - good.

Late for the train - bad. But now I will be more experienced and more responsible: next time I wake up early in order to have time to pack up and get to the station on time - good.

In the quarter I got a two in mathematics - bad. But when I went to the tutor, learned all the difficulties and finally figured out the topic, it was good.

Focus on your capabilities

Getting out of bed in the morning, do not burden yourself with thoughts like "Damn, today is a test, what if I can't cope" or "So many things, I won't be able to do anything." Focus on chances, opportunities and goals! Think what cool you can create today and write it down with a pen in your diary.

Remember what good you did for others today

Anyone, even the smallest deed, can bring joy to someone. If you made someone else happy even a little, then you yourself will become happier!

Keep a gratitude diary

Every day, write in your diary (or just say to yourself) three things for which you say "thank you" to the past days. For example, lying in bed in the evening, mark an unbroken deadline, a successful meeting with a friend, and be glad that an annoying pimple has โ€œdisappearedโ€ from your face. Pay attention to the nice little things!

Repeat the rituals every day and you will surely find spiritual harmony! โœจ