As much as breakups are hated, they are inevitable at least once or twice in your lifetime. We know the bottomless pit of misery, anger, confusion, and sadness they leave us in. The toughest part is figuring out how to come up to the surface of that pit, and regain your light, humor, hope, and happiness again.

Here’s the kicker -- every breakup is so different. There will never be a universal way to recover, and move forward. Picking up the pieces after a break up, all depends on your particular “breakup story.”

The one element that WILL work for anyone going through a breakup is relativity. The one thing we yearn for after a breakup is for something, or someone to relate to. We are left disconnected after a breakup, therefore it’s expected that your mind and heart won’t feel whole again until you find something you can connect with.

So, what is the fastest way to find this relativity or connection? Books. There are thousands of novels and self-help books that can build up our mindsets, restore our faith, and even make us laugh at our current situations. So many authors have break-up stories that may be very similar to your own. That is an instant connection. Read their book until the end, and boom, you have found the answer to come up from the misery pit.

Let’s get you started with a promising handful of books that will instantly remove the breakup blues from your life. Get ready to feel alive and vibrant again! You’ve got this!

All About Love: New Visions

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Bell Hooks not only reinvents ways of looking at love, she removes the veil most of us have when searching for love. Bell states, “The word ‘love’ is most often defined as a noun, yet...we would all love better if we used it as a verb.”

Instead of answering the question, “what is love?” with your heart, Hooks teaches you how to answer that with both heart and mind. People often evaluate love with just their heart. In 13 concise chapters, Hooks examines her own search for emotional connection and society’s failure to provide a model for learning to love.

We have been cultivated to believe that true love is infused with sex and desire. Hooks provides a new path to love that is sacred, redemptive, and healing for individuals, and for a nation.

Playing with Matches

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A novel about a young matchmaker balancing her messy personal life and the demands of her eccentric clients. Sasha Goldber has so much going for her: a recent journalism degree from NYU, an apartment with her best friend Caroline, and a relationship that would be great if her finance-obsessed boyfriend (Jonathan) ever looked up from his phone.

When Sasha’s dream career falls through, she uses her family’s darkest secret to land a job as a matchmaker for Manhattan’s elite. Sasha does a good job masking her lack of experience in her new career. She trolls for catches on Tinder, coaches her clients through rejection, and dishes out dating advice to people twice her age.

As time goes on, and she gains success with her matchmaking business, Jonathan betrays her. Sasha loses it, and ends up in the arms of a charming writer. Interestingly enough, she had previously matched one of her clients with this writer. “Playing With Matches” is an addictive story about dating in today’s swipe-heavy society, and a girl trying to find her own place in the world.

How To Date Men When You Hate Men

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Modern day dating… it’s wild. Who understands it? Blythe Roberson does! This book is all about navigating the jungle that is modern dating, and trust us, you’ll relate to it beyond belief! This book with have you laughing out loud, and feeling far less alone.

Solo: A Modern Cookbook for a Party of One

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The days of eating as a ‘party of one’ being awkward are over. Anita Lo’s cookbook is about cooking for one. Discover easy and delicious recipes in Lo’s cookbook. You deserve to get pampered, by feeding yourself. Finally, it’s all about you!

Anger: Wisdom for Cooling The Flames

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A life changing Buddhist text to help you turn anger completely around. This book is written by Tchit Nhat Hanh. He is a Zen master whose writing will help mend a broken heart, and convert anger into hope and joy. He teaches how to work with negative emotions and to reframe the way you might be directing anger at your ex.

The Idiot

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Get ready to be completely engaged with this heart revival novel. It centers around the theme of longing for someone who leads you on, and doesn’t give back what you need. Smart, incredibly amusing, and written in a slightly wry female voice.