You're going to college! Congrats! You've come this far, now don't get put off by the possibility of having tough roommates. We've all had them and you will too. But don't fret, it's not the end of the world. I too have had my fair mix of colourful roommates. Worried about how you're going to deal it all? Then I'd like offer a few tips and stories from my dorm years. Below is a list of various types of people you may encounter during your dorm days.

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Now I can 100% promise you from the first day you move in to the last day you move out, you will meet one of these. My very first day of college I met mine.

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Her name was Nicki. Prior to moving in we had all spoken to each other through messenger and were well acquainted. Nicki instantly struck me as the motherly figure who wanted to be liked and provide for everyone. But unfortunately it was not meant to be. Day one revealed her true nature. As me and my 4 other roommates are unpacking our rooms, who appears in the corridor looking fairly distressed? As we're all gathering around trying to console Nicki, she starts revealing stories of emotional abuse dealt out by her underage boyfriend. Needless to say we were all dumbfounded. And this was only the first day!
As the weeks and months went on Nicki's true nature became clearer. Each day she would reveal more. From her connections to the Hell's Angels to her yuck bum problems, each secret got stranger and stranger. But alas, our living arrangement was not meant to be and she ended up getting into a fight with another roommate. She ended up moving out and moving on to another college.

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After living with the biggest over sharer I learned some easy tips to dealing with more in the future.
-Be supportive and caring but DO NOT get involved in their personal problems. Many of us have a healing nature and just want to make people feel better. But you must remember not to get too involved.
-Don't get caught up in the drama. Although other roommates may itch to start drama with The Over Sharer, steer clear of it all. If you feel it's all too much, don't be afraid to go to your room for some quiet time. If you start drama with them you're sure to be on their rumour radar!

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Ugh I gag just thinking of The Dirty Duchess! I'm sure many of us have friends or family who are messy roommates but things change a little when we get to college. How to deal with them without becoming The Clean Freak can be a tricky thing.

Her name was Mikhayla. And like Nicki, she was normal at first. It started slowly at first. A few dirty dishes here, a some hair clumps there. Nothing major. Until one day it started out with a bloody bang. I just walked into the bathroom when something nasty caught my eye. A bloody unwrapped tampon in the open top garage! Yuck! Once Mikhayla had finally fessed up to it we politely asked her to cover or wrap used tampons in the future. Yet she still did not see the issue with it.
As time went on more and more yuck started showing. She would make whole meals and help herself to others dishes and cookware without bothering to wash anything. She had also taken the liberty of inviting her boyfriend to stay in our tiny apartment for 5 weeks! And combined, they made the ultimate mess. More dirty dishes, trimmed beard hairs, rotten food, weed stench. The lot.
We asked her boyfriend to leave and she never spoke to us again.

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Needless to say friendships were ended because of how we all dealt with The Dirty Duchess. So I'd like to offer some tips so you can deal with the this type of roommate without problems.
-Don't be passive aggressive. Express how you feel and understand how they feel. Avoid being critical and instead try and offer positive solutions.
-Don't leave things until the last minute. Sit down with your roommates in the beginning and set our weekly chores and brainstorm ideas to keep the apartment clean.
-Communicate. And I mean face-to-face. Not through text, messenger, sticky notes, or gossip. People appreciate when you speak to them instead of being indirect. Leaving the odd note to "wash the dishes" or "clean the bathroom" will not work.

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Now this may sound nice at first. You may think "oh sweet someone who will clean up for me". Unfortunately that's not how it works.

Her name was Carly. She was my best friend so this was a tricky one to deal with. Carly moved in later in the year so our routine had already been established. At first she was a welcome change after dealing with The Dirty Duchess. But eventually the squeaky clean began to take over everyone's lives. She started setting standards of that should be reserved for hotel maids. Forcing us to close the toilet lid, wash each others dishes, and bleach the apartment daily were her standards.

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It's near impossible to force people to live 100% mess free lives. But you can work together as a unit to make things as clean as possible.
-Keep your space as clean as possible. Don't leave unnecessary mess in shared spaces.
-Don't be afraid to say no. If The Clean Freak sets unrealistic standards don't get caught up. Instead, discuss what you feel would be a better alternative that works for everyone.

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Now this isn't true for all people, but my experience didn't leave a long lasting happy memory.

Her name was Jayelle. I had known her since childhood so I presumed we would be good roommates. Unfortunately, that was not the case. Her religious values were no problem in the beginning and it did not affect how we got along, This all changed when I introduced a small 4 inch LGBTQ pride flag into the apartment. It wasn't big, it wasn't in the way, it was just a small flag located in the dining room that was almost easy to miss. I introduced it as a way to make me and other roommates comfortable in our home.
Now this became an issue when one day I came home and noticed the flag had been taken down and hidden under some junk. I believed it was taken down by mistake and I put it back up. To my surprise I received a message from Jayelle expressing her distaste for the flag and it's symbolism. She believed we were trying to force a gay agenda and that she disagreed with the LGBTQ 'lifestyle'.
To avoid further confrontation we moved the flag to a different space in the apartment and made no mention of it again.

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Now this one is tricky because it's difficult to change someones point of view if it's so deep-rooted in religion. To avoid unnecessary confrontation and possibly offending someone you must be very careful.
-Don't be close minded. We must try and keep an open mind to others opinions even if they don't match our own. If someone expresses their discomfort or dislike for your actions you must remember you live in a shared space and to be mindful of how others feel.
-Compromise. Sometimes you'll have to give things up in order to live harmoniously.

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Finally away from home and away from the parents. Time to party, am I right? But some people take it to the extreme. Some people only go to college for the atmosphere and abundance of parties. And living with something like that when you're also trying to get a degree can be quite a hassle.

Her name was Emma. She had always been a partier and certainly wasn't going to stop for her education. Since the first week we moved in until we moved out, she went to pub every week. Now that wasn't a problem. Except when she'd bring the pub home. She never wanted the party to end so she would frequently come back at 1 or 2 in the morning with more friends and more booze. It finally came to the breaking point when one morning the roommates and I went to wake her up, only to walk into a room covered in urine! In a drunken haze she had urinated all over herself, her bed and her room.
Eventually we spoke to her about her excessive partying and how it affected us and needless to say she cooled down.

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-Find a quiet space. Sometimes nights will get wild and peace and quiet may be hard to find. If your roommates are being loud and you need somewhere to study, plan ahead of time and find places designated as studying zones such as residence commons, on campus or private rooms.
-Talk it out. If The Party Queen insists on having parties every night, take the time to talk to them and let them know how it affects you. After all, this is your education and your house too and you have the right to live comfortably.

Now I'd like to finish this off by reminding you that everyones experience at college is different. New school, new friends, new home. It truly is what you make of it and keeping your head up the easiest way to have a good time. Never be afraid to try new things (within your comfort zone!) and meet new people. You will meet the best and worst kind of people while at school.