Is there's something I've dealt with multiple times in my life is toxic positivity - not always mine, but other's as well - and that really affected me. So today I'll write about that and things that you can do to avoid that!

โ˜† ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’“๐’๐’…๐’–๐’„๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’

Positivity is a really, really good tool to use whenever we feel like we need to, it even can reduce our anxiety and worries. Now, when is that considered "toxic"?
I'm sure that you read quotes daily that lead to toxic positivity on the social media. This is when we refuse to have negative feelings/thoughts and only allow ourselves to feel good and to show only the positive emotions. That way we block our feelings and that can be really shattering.

Now talking about my personal experience, toxic positivity can be really harmful to your soul. People always say "that's nothing, just be positive!" "stop being so negative" "good vibes only" and, when you get sad - which is perfectly normal and sometimes we need to feel sad -, you start questioning youself what the hell is wrong with you, why you can't always see the bright side or even be happy all the time.
I tell you why: because is not possible. You can't always be happy, but you can almost always be positive.
Feeling ALL our emotions is actually the road that leads us to a better mental health.

โ˜† ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ๐ฑ๐ข๐œ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ

๐š๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ - First, ask yourself how you're REALLY feeling at the moment. Know all the feelings you have inside of you and validate them, without faking or hiding anything.

๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ'๐ฌ ๐ง๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ - Keep in mind that feeling that way is completely normal and that no one can be happy all the time, it's just not possible. That way you're opening the way to have more self control.

๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ - Make sure you understand that positivity is achieved with time and patience, it's something you've got to work on daily and slowly.

๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ˆ๐’๐'๐“ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  - We need to know that real positivism isn't faking our emotions. Positivity is only something to make us feel more calm and motivated and fearless of what will happen. Is something we have to use knowing all the borderlines and not crossing them!

๐ž๐ฑ๐š๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐š๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐ ๐จ๐Ÿ... :

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And if none of this works out, it's alright. We can't always have power over our emotions, but we can always try and help ourselves.

This was the article for today. Remember, your mental health comes first and you can send me a message if you feel like it, we can go through this together! I believe in you. โ™ก
Dearly,
April.