⋆ 𝐭𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐲 - 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐢𝐭

Is there's something I've dealt with multiple times in my life is toxic positivity - not always mine, but other's as well - and that really affected me. So today I'll write about that and things that you can do to avoid that!

☆ 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒅𝒖𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏

Positivity is a really, really good tool to use whenever we feel like we need to, it even can reduce our anxiety and worries. Now, when is that considered "toxic"?
I'm sure that you read quotes daily that lead to toxic positivity on the social media. This is when we refuse to have negative feelings/thoughts and only allow ourselves to feel good and to show only the positive emotions. That way we block our feelings and that can be really shattering.

Now talking about my personal experience, toxic positivity can be really harmful to your soul. People always say "that's nothing, just be positive!" "stop being so negative" "good vibes only" and, when you get sad - which is perfectly normal and sometimes we need to feel sad -, you start questioning youself what the hell is wrong with you, why you can't always see the bright side or even be happy all the time.
I tell you why: because is not possible. You can't always be happy, but you can almost always be positive.
Feeling ALL our emotions is actually the road that leads us to a better mental health.

☆ 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐲

𝐚𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐝𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 - First, ask yourself how you're REALLY feeling at the moment. Know all the feelings you have inside of you and validate them, without faking or hiding anything.

𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥 - Keep in mind that feeling that way is completely normal and that no one can be happy all the time, it's just not possible. That way you're opening the way to have more self control.

𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭 - Make sure you understand that positivity is achieved with time and patience, it's something you've got to work on daily and slowly.

𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐈𝐒𝐍'𝐓 𝐟𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 - We need to know that real positivism isn't faking our emotions. Positivity is only something to make us feel more calm and motivated and fearless of what will happen. Is something we have to use knowing all the borderlines and not crossing them!

𝐞𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐨𝐟... :

And if none of this works out, it's alright. We can't always have power over our emotions, but we can always try and help ourselves.

This was the article for today. Remember, your mental health comes first and you can send me a message if you feel like it, we can go through this together! I believe in you. ♡

Dearly,
April.