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Dear Hearters,

One of the biggest problems couples face in this day and age is co-dependence in relationships. This is when both partners rely on each other for validation and support. While it may not seem like a big deal, at first, co-dependency is powerful enough to impact non-romantic relationships, like friendships or family ties. In fact, they're capable of completely destroy a person's happiness.

Yet, regardless of how complicated relationships can be, there's always a way of overcoming these obstacles. That being said, here's how to avoid co-dependent relationships:

PS: I included a mini life and account update at the end of this article, just in case anyone's interested.


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| Take time away from your partner.

One thing couples tend to forget is that not everything needs to be done together. It's always good to focus on your own priorities and objectives. By spending time on your own, without any attention from your partner, you'll be able to maintain your independence and self-confidence. Moreover, you'll have more to talk about when you and your partner meet again. It spices things up, you know?

Independence in a relationship is vital, primarily because there will always be moments where the only person who can be there to help is yourself. People who are in co-dependent relationships don't tend to progress in their relationship, or in life. The ability to validate yourself, and your own accomplishments is something that'll help you achieve more in the future. In addition, the ability to recognize your own mistakes also makes a big difference in the grander scheme of things. Eventually, when your relationship takes a wrong turn, you and your partner will be able to pin point what the issue(s) are, and that'll help continue the relationship even further.

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| Focus on your friends and family.

Relationships may not last forever, but family does. Life-long friends can be family too. In most cases, friends tend to last longer than romances... but maybe that's just me.

The people who've been there for you through the good, bad, and ugly are the ones who are worth having in your life. A partner may not be able to do what a family member or friend can. Thus, it's always better to have a broad support system, one that is able to build you up, rather than drag you down. Co-dependency makes it even more difficult for one person to support the other, primarily because someone who can't help themselves can't help the people around them. If you continue surrounding yourself with loved ones (and pay them the respect and love they deserve), then they'll still be able to be there for you in return.

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| Love yourself first at all times.

You cannot love another person if you are unable to love yourself. Always enter a relationship in a confident, healthy, and stable mindset. You got to be kind to yourself and realize your self-worth before giving value to others. That's the ultimate way of making things work.

Validation from another person isn't ever going to be enough. You have to realize that sometimes, having the courage to see your full potential is what's going to make the best results. Your partner is extra credit, if you think about it. What's considered enough should always be decided by you, not them. In co-dependent relationships, it's always about pleasing the other person. You're never going to please people completely, or all the time. However, being satisfied with yourself is what's going to keep you pushing ahead, which is something both partners need to do in order to boost each other up. Overall, your only happiness should be determined by you. Don't have someone else set the standards: you choose what makes you happy.

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Hello friends, welcome to the life and account update!


Job hunting hasn't been so good. Not a lot of places are hiring, and most places that are require experience... which I have none. Therefore, I've decided to throw in the towl and apply myself to McDonald's, which I heard isn't as bad as most people say it is. I got to start somewhere, after all.
I haven't kept in touch with many of my friends this summer, since we're all moving in different directions and most of them already have a job. At the same time, I have a new boyfriend; and although my relationship is long distance, I'm hoping both of us can work things out in the end. In regards to everything else, my life has been in quite a slump, but I see things getting better in the future. After all, college is starting up soon, and I only had to pay $40 in order to enroll myself.
As for college, I'm finishing my general education whilst working towards an Associates Degree In Biology In Science for Transfer (ADT). I've registered for both semesters, but the following classes I'm taking for my first semester include:
➺ General Zoology
➺ Trigonometry
➺ College Composition
➺ Introduction to Theatre
I'm really excited for college; it's going to be a brand new beginning, and I know that I'll be making new friends, and new adventures along the way. If anyone has any tips on studying or extracurriculars, let me know! I'd really appreciate it.
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I've decided to change my account aesthetic. Even though I'll still include fashion posts here and there, I'm going to transition into a more minimal, indie theme. As for articles, I'm going to just post whenever I feel like it; taking up this hobby again has really helped me in my down time, and I do want to help other people out there who are starting up with school again. Thus, expect a lot of back-to-school / study articles along the way. I'll also include articles about life too.
Oh yes! What are your thoughts on the mini layout changes? I'd love to hear some feedback! But anyways...
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That's all, folks!



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