Hello, Lovelies!

I have struggled with anxiety my entire life, and I know that a lot of other people have too. I wanted to write and share some tips and tricks of how to deal with your anxiety when it becomes too much. Hopefully, some of these tips will be helpful to you if you struggle with anxiety. Now, enough of the introduction, let's start.

Tip #1: Breathe.

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I know. I know. Everyone says just to "calm down and breathe" when you are having an anxiety attack, and that can sometimes sound repetitious, annoying, or even impossible in the moment. But I have found that if you try very hard to just focus on your breathing, and only your breathing, it can really help calm you down. Start counting your breaths silently (or out loud). I find that it's helpful to count to ten breaths, then start over again at one. This is a technique that I actually use when I am meditating, and I find that it really helps me whenever my anxiety kicks in.

Tip #2: Become aware of your surroundings.

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Whenever I am having an anxiety or panic attack, I feel like I am trapped in my own mind, but it helps me whenever I try to look around me and focus on my surroundings. I try to focus on a single sound or object near me or in the distance. I try to realize that it is not as scary outside of my mind as it is inside.

Tip #3: Go to your "happy place".

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I know this sounds very cliche, but this method has always worked best for me. I recently took a trip to Ireland, and while I was there I visited the Cliffs of Moher (pictured above). I have never felt so at peace with myself or the world than in those moments that I was standing on top of those 700 foot cliffs, looking down at the sea, hearing the birds chirping, and having the wind whip past my face. That is my "happy place". I have a mental picture of that stamped in my brain, and whenever I start to have a bad panic or anxiety attack, I close my eyes and go back to when I was standing on those cliffs. I remember how I felt in that moment, and it helps calm me down and become peaceful. So, my tip to finding your "happy place" is just to try to remember a place, experience, or memory that makes you feel at peace or happy (or both) and visualize yourself there in that moment. Try to remember the feelings you had during that moment and transfer those feelings to the present.

Tip #4: Ask for help.

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I know if your are stubborn like me, that it feels like giving up or being weak when you ask others for help, but it's not. There is a strength in realizing that you can not do something on your own and asking for help. Find a family member, friend, or even a complete stranger if you want to, and ask them for comfort. Ask them to give you positive feedback or just simply a hug. It is amazing how much help it can be to just have someone who cares about you help you through an attack. It can help your anxiety go away, and it can help grow your relationship and bond with that person.

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I truly hope that some (or all) of these tips have helped you in a way, and might help you next time you struggle with anxiety. Remember, you are so beautiful, strong, and worthy of life. Stay strong.

- April