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hiii. yea, i'm back. for the past few months i've been pretty busy with school and everything, and i just couldn't find time or motivation to write. but, now that it's summer break, i cant wait to get back to WHI!!

now, while i was away, i felt all over the place and i lost the sense of who i really am. i started eating poorly again, i stopped doing things i love, and i just wasn't sure what to do with myself.
and that's why i'm here today, to help both you and me get our shit together!! feel free to change any steps according to your personal preferences, experiences or abilities at the moment, and take your time guyss, this is literally a process. it can take days, weeks, and even months to finally feel satisfied with yourself in this sense.

okay, enough rambling, let's get on with the article!!

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reflect

first, i want you to really be honest with yourself and reflect on the past few months. think about your previous goals, the people around you, and the environment you've been living in.
were you surrounded by positive figures, or did they have a negative impact on you? were your goals too ambitious for your current abilities? did you tackle more than you could handle, and did that result in you feeling worn out? were you emotionally hurt by something?
asking questions like this can make you understand why you feel the way you do, and what actually caused you to lose your shit in the first place lol. once you understand what got you into the situation you are in now, it will help you get out of it as well. you can even write it all out in a journal or something and then come back to it whenever you need to!!

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visualize

this is by far my favorite part of this article!! this is the part where you get to basically create your ideal life. i recommend grabbing a notebook & constructing an image of how you want your life to be, down to all the details. you don't need to be realistic, dont hold back, let your heart & desires guide you. define your values & ambitions, so that in the end you have your ideal life. you can add pictures, quotes, magazine cutouts...
in addition to this, you can also make a vision board, and hang it somewhere in your room. i did this, and basically i printed out a few pics for each of my interests, ambitions & values (for example, fitness, dance, animals, art, travelling, fashion etc.). let yourself dream and be creative.
these should help you get in touch with your values & ambitions, and have them guide you through life and all your decisions. whenever you feel lost & unmotivated, come back to your vision board or notebook and remember what you're working for.

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organize

now that we took care of our past & future, it's time to tackle our present, and that starts with our surroundings. if you clicked on this article, chances are your room/house/apartment isn't at its best lol. once you take time to clean, declutter and organize your living space, your whole life will feel more put together as well. i should really make an article on this topic, but until then you'll have to do it on your own :((
try not to leave any task for another time, but rather focus on getting everything done as soon as possible. i know that maybe you can't get everything done in one day ofc,but still, when you're done your place should be 100% clean

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glow up

yes, i know this is a pretty broad topic, but here we are talking about both a physical & a mental glow up. i'm not gonna ramble too much about it here, because i already have an article about this that you could check out:

there are also many other articles, as well as youtube videos & twitter threads. do a bit of research and plan your own glow up!!

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create

personally, i think creating art is by far the best way to truly find yourself, although it is a long process. since there are many different art forms, you are free to choose whichever one you find most interesting & pleasing. if you have never tried it, you might need some time to become good at it, but them again, you don't need to be good at art to enjoy it. the point is to express yourself and your emotions, and also find yourself along the way. art will show you who you really are & is vital to get your shit together

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set goals

doing the previous steps has probably helped you get to know yourself a bit better, which means it's time to set new goals according to your current abilities, values & priorities. focus on yourself and do what you really want/need to do in order to achieve your ideal life. be precise & divide your goal into smaller steps, and organize your time accordingly. don't think about other people & their opinions. be ambitious and always keep these goals in mind when you feel lost or want to give up.

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yea, that's all i've got for this article!! hopefully it helped, or atleast motivated you to go get your shit together. i'm sorry it ended up this long, i'm still getting used to writing again, and i had a lot to say on this topic lol.
if you have any criticisms, compliments or questions, you can message me anytime.

see you in my next article ♡

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