12 Tips
#1 She Is Hellish With Everyone And Everything (Not Just You)

Don’t take it personal. In fact the definition according to Dictionary.com defines a pessimist as “a person who habitually sees or anticipates the worst or is disposed to be gloomy”. One has to understand that in order for someone to change he, or she has to recognize these toxic thought patterns. Also a person has to desire the transition from a pessimist to an optimist. Since a person may be so adopted to being a "Debbie Downer" that change is going to take time, in conjunction with dedication. Besides the journey to happiness when you are constantly in a rut is like driving in circles. Above all remember that thoughts are what stop people from reaching happiness. It should be noted that another person's inner peace is not your responsibility at all.

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"Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give - pleasure, possessions, power - but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy." -Dada Vaswani

#2 Her Negative Attitude Is Not Your Fault

However this person may attempt to lead you to believe that you're the reason for them being difficult when in fact it is solely apart of their character. So rid the belief that if you were not in the picture that magically somehow a person would change. Somehow that their entire way of thinking would magically become positive. And that without you all complaints would stop. As well as her becoming a pure delight to have in company. Inner peace is a venture from within. Although some days you will be moved by outer elements overall your day to day peace is controlled by you.

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“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” ― Alphonse Karr

#3 Draw A Crystal Clear Line For Respect

Define thee sort of behavior that is acceptable, and what you will not deal with. Yes, people will add their two cents in every chance that they get. So you have to define the line between them having their opinion, and them being completely out of line. And just because you may be an optimistic person, or working towards being one does not mean you should allow someone to hurt your feelings, or crush your dreams. Recognize an opinion versus a personal shot towards your character. Altogether constant disrespect will place a strain on your inner peace.

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#4 Distance Yourself When A Negative Person Starts A Rant

Ideally that moment when you feel that dark cloud of energy coming about about to rain on your ray of sunshine, run. If you are on the phone with her and she starts going on a rant, just makeup an excuse to hang up the phone. Or if you are face to face tell her you have to go take a shower, or use the restroom. Basically get far away as possible during super negative times. If you can spend less time with a difficult person than do so.

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"Spending time with negative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel. But allowing a negative person to dictate your emotions gives them too much power in your life. Make a conscious effort to choose your attitude". -Amy Morin

#5 If Distance Is impossible Then Ignore The Pessimist

Practice Ignoring ignorance, and negativity when distance is not an option. Because no matter what you do difficult people will always find something wrong with something you did. Even when you follow their exact instructions. Ignore her as much as possible when her negativity starts to rev up. Of course not on decisions that will affect your well being. As long as it is not affecting your happiness then there is no need to participate in pessimism. Cherry-pick which debates are worth fighting for. Because there could be a war from their horrible outlook every twenty minutes, and arguments don"t fuel your inner peace. Plus arguing with someone who is stubborn is exhausting mentally, physically, and spiritually. Allowing a person to change your element is going to ruin your inner contentment. More correctly you deserve to be happy instead of keeping misery good company.

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"The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence". -Norman Vincent Peale

#6 Restrain From Always Reacting

Because most negative people receive a huge delight out of crushing a hopeful persons world. There is nothing wrong with being an optimistic person. However when chatting with an individual who constantly sees their glass half empty, tread lightly because the conversations are different. Again different meaning that you should be fully prepared to go back, and forth with a negative person if you are trying to persuade her to be more optimistic. Because a negative outlook will bleed dry all of your inner peace. Negative people are more fueled when optimistic people try to prove how there is still love, and good present in the world but lose a certain debate. Thus feeding their inner monster.

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#7 Acknowledge That You Understand Their Opinion

Welcome any valid point she makes. Considering that If a person feels like you actually heard what she said then she may become open to your point. Of course no one wants to feel ignored, wrote off, or misunderstood. Most importantly you must recognize that you can understand someone's view while not necessarily agree with their critique of something, or someone. Another persons opinion should not hold so much power over you that it ruins your peace of mind.

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#8 Provide Little To No Info On Your Future Plans

When planning your new year goals, or any goal, mostly keep it to yourself instead of baiting a discouraging individual. Also a pessimist can, and will find every hole in your dreams, and plans. In fact they may create holes that are non existent. Which in turn might leave you wondering if your plan is actually as good as you thought it was before you presented it to their negative self. Listen, keeping quiet means you would rather not hear any negative input on your hopes, not that they are in control of you. Comprehending that a negative Nancy will usually enjoy feeling in control, by explaining why your goals are not going to be met.

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"An optimist may see a light where there is none, but why must the pessimist always run to blow it out?" -Rene Descartes

#9 Never Partake In Gossip

Have you ever caught yourself venting with someone who is always complaining? It is not normal to always complain about the same person, or situation. And if you are participating with any negative actions that pessimistic person will take that as a subconscious signal to spread even more negativity. Aboard ship as soon as possible.

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#10 Refrain From Solving Their Problems

Let's be honest for just a moment. Negative people do not truly seek solutions however they do enjoy complaining criticizing each hair on a head. A negative Ned does not want you to deliver solutions instead they want you to listen to them be negative. They may as go as far as asking what your opinion on the matter is although deep down they were not going to consider your opinion at all. Yet this is an opener for them to present more negative evidence on the subject at hand.

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#11 Don't Ask Their Opinion

Especially if you are not prepared to hear any down putting comments. Also difficult person tends to complain about everything from the admired most celebrities, movies, dinner, and anything they can find something wrong with anything.

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"The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." -Winston Churchill

#12 Express How Bothered You Are By Their Negative Ways

And tell him, or her how it is taking a toll on your friendship, or relationship. Explain in a way that does not seem critical, or belittling. And this may sound like common sense but some individuals really are unaware of the heavy effects that their negative energy carries. Definitely not thru a text message. Preferably face to face

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A difficult person is a pessimist who is constantly bummed out, aggravated, complaining, displeased or whining over the smallest things. Also a theory is that people who are easily taken out of a good mood truly have no inner peace. That is an example of why you have to focus on not letting a pessimistic person affect your inner peace. And this person might be a family member, spouse, friend, coworker, neighbor, or even yourself. This is a person who may tell you to go left, and then when you take a left they may tell you to go right. And when you do finally go right they may tell you to head straight down the middle instead. In other words they are impossible in almost every aspect.

There you have it on how to keep your inner happiness opposed to letting someone else destruct it. Remember that self-care does not equal being too self absorbed. By practicing self-care while handling difficult people you will be more attentive to your best interest too. Which will lead to peace that eventually will be in a mentally unmovable state. Only if you mindfully continue working on your inner peace can that be accomplished. Nevertheless if you are optimistic enough it might rub a tad bit off on a negative Nancy but you alone cannot transform a person. All that you can do is distance yourself, ignore, or use tactics to cope with difficult people.

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