I understand there are a million different articles and ways to deal with a ๐’ฝ๐‘’๐’ถ๐“‡๐“‰๐’ท๐“‡๐‘’๐’ถ๐“€. But, there are deeper ways to channel those ๐’ป๐‘’๐‘’๐“๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘”๐“ˆ ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐‘’๐“‚๐‘œ๐“‰๐’พ๐‘œ๐“ƒ๐“ˆ.

1. Try and put into words exactly how youโ€™re feeling. ๐ผ๐“ˆ ๐’พ๐“‰ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’ ๐“…๐’ถ๐’พ๐“ƒ ๐‘œ๐’ป ๐“‡๐‘’๐’ฟ๐‘’๐’ธ๐“‰๐’พ๐‘œ๐“ƒ? Is it an overwhelming feeling of shame and self-loathing? Is it a sense of disbelief that youโ€™ve been treated so cruelly by others? Is it a sense of utter desperation?

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2. Try and find a way of expressing the pain. Sometimes we can tell the person who has hurt usโ€“ but often we feel that they wonโ€™t be responsive. If that is the case, find someone you can open up to. ๐ผ๐“‰โ€™๐“ˆ ๐“‡๐‘’๐’ถ๐“๐“๐“Ž ๐’พ๐“‚๐“…๐‘œ๐“‡๐“‰๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐“‰ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“‰ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š ๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“‹๐‘’ ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’ ๐’ธ๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’ธ๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ ๐’ฝ๐‘œ๐“ƒ๐‘’๐“ˆ๐“‰๐“๐“Ž ๐‘’๐“๐“…๐“‡๐‘’๐“ˆ๐“ˆ ๐“Œ๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“‰ ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Šโ€™๐“‡๐‘’ ๐‘”๐‘œ๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘” ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐“‡๐‘œ๐“Š๐‘”๐’ฝ. If you feel thereโ€™s no-one you can talk to right now, then perhaps try journaling, or using some kind of art, like music or painting.

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3. If the painโ€™s related to something that happened, admit that you canโ€™t go back and change the past. ๐’ด๐‘œ๐“Š ๐“ƒ๐‘’๐‘’๐’น ๐“‰๐‘œ ๐“๐‘’๐“‰ ๐’พ๐“‰ ๐‘”๐‘œ ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐“€๐‘’๐‘’๐“… ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š๐“‡ ๐‘’๐“Ž๐‘’๐“ˆ ๐’ถ๐’ฝ๐‘’๐’ถ๐’น. You are not defined by what happened to you, and you have what it takes to live a rich, rewarding life.

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4. Related to this, forgive yourself and donโ€™t hold on to regrets. Learn what you can โ€“ ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“ƒ ๐’ธ๐’ฝ๐‘œ๐‘œ๐“ˆ๐‘’ ๐“‰๐‘œ ๐“‚๐‘œ๐“‹๐‘’ ๐’ถ๐’ฝ๐‘’๐’ถ๐’น. Donโ€™t be a victim of your past or other people.

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5. Reconnect with the person that you were previously. Think of who you might have been if this had never happened. You can still be that person: ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐‘’๐“Ž ๐’ถ๐“‡๐‘’ ๐“ˆ๐“‰๐’พ๐“๐“ ๐’ถ ๐“…๐’ถ๐“‡๐“‰ ๐‘œ๐’ป ๐“Ž๐‘œ๐“Š.

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6. Focus on the things that bring you ๐’ฟ๐‘œ๐“Ž ๐’ถ๐“ƒ๐’น ๐’ฝ๐’ถ๐“…๐“…๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘’๐“ˆ๐“ˆ, and focus on those people who love care for you.

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