So I just finished the book, You are a Badass, which had some really helpful ideas on how to live a great life and all that. Today I started a book called, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and holy sh*t I'm hooked. I only read the first two chapters but I wanted to share with you some of the things he wrote that were interesting to me.

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Don't try

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Have you ever noticed that it's the kid who doesn't try in school gets away with ditching but if you tried, you'd get caught? Have you ever noticed that he starts giving you attention as soon as you stop trying to get his? Don't try to impress people, don't overthink. Just be you. Be honest with yourself and it'll lead you to a happier life. "You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life." When you stop trying to control life, the more it will fall into place. "Pain and loss are inevitable and we should let go of trying to resist them."

"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience."

Be different

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Not giving a f*ck doesn't mean being indifferent, it means being comfortable with being different. "Indifferent people often attempt to be indifferent because in reality they give way too many f*cks."

The truth hurts

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Don't deny your feelings. "Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance." "The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame." "To try to avoid pain is to give too many f*cks about pain."

You get to chose

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You get to chose where you channel your energy and thoughts. Giving too many f*cks about what people think of you, of what you care about, is bad for your mental health. "The key to a good life is not giving a f*ck about more; it's giving a f*ck about less, giving a f*ck about what is true and immediate and important." "Say, 'F*uck it," not to everything in life, but rather to everything unimportant in life. Reserve your f*cks for what truly matters. Friends. Family. Purpose. Burritos. An occasional lawsuit or two."

"To not give a f*ck about adversity (difficulties), you must first give a f*ck about something more important than adversity."

Problems are good

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So often we see hurt, anger, anxiety, etc. as bad. Our goal in life is to be happy not to suffer. But life will suck sometimes and instead of getting down, be happy because something big in your life is about to happen. We grow through pain. If you burn your hand on the stove, you know not to touch it. "We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It's nature's preferred agent for inspiring change." "Negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, it's because you're suppose to do something."

What are you willing to do to get there

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When you're asked, "What do you want out of life?" most answers are something like, "I want to be happy." A more interesting question for consideration is, "What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to do to get there?" When one problem is fixed, you'll be given more problems, different problems to solve. Often people want to reward, not the struggle. If you want a healthy relationship, you're going to have to go through awkward silences and fights sometimes. If you want to be a rockstar, you're going to have to haul all your equipment everywhere. If you want to be a mommy, you're going to have to sacrifice a lot of your time and energy. Chose your struggle, chose what to give a f*ck about. "To not give a f*ck is to stare down life's most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action."

So those are some of my highlights from the first two chapters! Let me know if you want to read more book reflections or thoughts I've pulled along the way.:)

What are you favorite books?

-M