The main difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people know exactly what they want, but they have no idea how to get it. Not even a clue.
We usually think that successful people know always what they are doing and know for sure how to achieve their goals, that they have everything under control. But that is not true. They only know EXACTLY what they want.
You have to remember: FAILURE doesn't exist. Period.
What exists is LEARNING. You failed the exam= you didn't succeed. NO. Next time learn better, prepare for it better.
When they asked Eddison, why he didn't give up, after 5 000 light bulbs exploded, he answered: "But why would I?" Can you imagine that answer- why would I give up. They told him: "But it didn't work so many times, what kept you going?" He said: " What do you mean, it didn't work? It worked every single time. Because every time it exploded, I figured out what I need to do, to improve it for the next time."
There are 3 conditions to succeed (whatever you consider that success is for you):
1. DON'T BE AFRAID. FEAR EXISTS ONLY IF YOU GIVE IT'S IMPORTANCE.
First, you have to do something, what scares you the most. For example, quit the job that you don't like, quit hanging out with people who don't respect you, etc.

2. THE PATH TO HELL IS PAVED WITH GOOD INTENTIONS.
You have to support yourself in what you are doing on the way to your goal. Don't wait for support from other people. Don't ask for support from other people. Because, every time you ask someone for their opinion about decisions you need to make, you are instantly inviting their insecurities, their fears, and their bad experiences into your life. You are brave enough to make your own choices. These people who give you advice really have good intentions, they really want you the best. But they are speaking from their point of view, they are very subjective and you can't take this as it is. If you do so, you will start believing that achieving your goal isn't possible, just because those people with "good intentions" didn't succeed. Please remember this: When someone says- this is impossible--->this isn't generally impossible. When someone says- you can't do this--->it's because he/she can't do this, that doesn't mean that it's generally impossible.

3. LIVE AND LET OTHERS LIVE. HAVE HOPE, NO EXPECTATIONS.
Cut out from your life negative people, even if they are your relatives or closest friends. That doesn't mean that you have to stop talking to them. This means that from now on, you won't try so hard to meet other people's expectations. Because you are not made or born to meet anyone's expectations. Nobody has the right to demand you to achieve their dreams. Nobody has the right to rule your life. You don't have the right to do that in other people's lives, either. That doesn't mean that you don't love your parents or relatives, it means that you give them the freedom to achieve their dreams and not your expectations.

I hope I helped someone to begin making changes in his/her life.
I will continue to write about self-care, and personal development, not because I mastered all of this, but because I need a reminder, too. Working on yourself will give you more satisfaction in your life and will show you things you need to work on.
And if you have any comments, opinions or experiences related to this, feel free to send me a message. I would love to hear feedback from you. Also, a different perspective on any of these topics I write about is welcome.

Be kind. Lots of love,

Jelena.