No this article is not about History, I'm not discussing Queen Elizabeth I's life.

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(even though if you're interested, that's a good idea and you should check it out.)

No, my topic for today, is completely out of the blue as:
First, I haven't been writing for a long time now.
Second, I don't know how we heart it or even people are going to react to this article but the subject came to my mind as I was in class so I thought I should write about it.

Why is it so problematic to be a virgin nowadays?

YAYY super subject right?

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Here are some white things to underlina that: yes I'm about to talk about virginity.

So, I mean NOT that I don’t get it, I just don’t get why ? As I know the "importance" of it.
For example, for a guy… A guy will never praise being a virgin, because he will then feel "inferior" to his friends in some kind of way (which I don't know why). When I say praise I don’t mean to tell it again and again to people, but even just admitting it to ONE person, ONE friend, the ONE person we like.. This is a moment when you feel deeply insecure.
But why ?
I mean why is that ? Each one is supposed to lose its virginity in its own time. For some it’s longer than other. I don’t get why those standards make boys want or somhow need to hook up with some girl they barely know, or absolutely not love just to have sex and then to move on.. Just in order to say that they’re no longer virgins anymore. I mean this is pretty stupid isn't it?

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And they say it’s easier for girls.

Well haha no.

It’s not easier because when you start getting older and still not having had a single relationship while your girl friends talk to you about their experiences and stuff you feel completely embarrassed. Of course, as you have nothing to add to the conversation, you’re pristine, you’re a virgin .. you don’t know.
Also, I don’t know about you but what I can say about myself is that I know, I know that while time goes on and on, I feel more and more embarrassed of not having any relations of any kind.

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Not to be dramatic or anything, but sometimes overthinking this type of things is the reason why people feel bad about themselves, and so sort of depressed..

I feel really embarrassed and just the idea of eventually having someone in my life just stresses me out. LIKE LITERALLY, just thinking of it makes me want to puke. (not bcse I’m disgusted), but bcse I’m just scared, freaking scared. Scared of maybe never being good enough for anyone, and ending this freaking life all alone. Scared bcse you think maybe someday it might come and you just don’t know what you have to do.. Scared bcse you think you’ll not be able to manage a relationship. Scared of being judge. Scared of so much things.
I think that a girl’s view of her virginity and stuff is often very underestimated. Of course (and I don’t know why) when we tell our friends we’re definetely less judged than a guy would be. And we also have less of this social pressure on us that guys have.

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I don't know why but when people know about your virginity it sounds wrong or weird; no matter who you tell it to.

Finally you might say:

"yes but if the person does love you, it’ll come naturally, you’ll not be judge, you’ve nothing to be scared of…”

or

"Don't worry about being a virgin there's no problem about that, you're a girl it's rather 'a good thing'."

But do you really think that you, the person who’s absolutely not in this case saying things like that will help? No. (It's not a question of "what to do in this situation?" anyway)

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I mean no really. When you’re an overthinker like me you think about a lot of things (this is just the tip of the iceberg). And well, when you feel insecure then I don’t think there’s something you can do about it.

What are your thoughts about it ? Tell me.

Feel free to give me any feedbacks on what you liked or not, and your opinion or answers to any of the things where I said "I don't know why' which I know is a lot.

M.