When you hate someone you stop hanging around them.
You stop talking to them.
You cut them out of your life.

But, if you hate yourself, what in the world can you do?

You’re stuck with yourself, stuck with your thoughts, stuck with that reflection in the mirror that you just despise.

You can’t run away from yourself.
No matter what you do.
Even when you drown yourself in alcohol or bury yourself in work, you are still there, yourself is still there.

Pretending something doesn’t exist doesn’t make it go away.

Imagine, just imagine, being stuck in the same room with the person you hate the most for eternity.

Only death can save you.
Or love.

By love, I mean self-love.

Falling in love with the person you’re stuck with.

It is very hard to change the hatred to love.
It is very hard to see what you once viewed as flaws perfections.
It is very hard to accept yourself the way you are, I know.

But it is possible.

I can’t lie to you and tell you that I am oh so in love with myself because sometimes I still look in the mirror and hate the reflection staring back at me
I still struggle with my body, my weight.
I still dislike how pale my skin looks.

And it’s okay to have days like that, it really is as long as you get back up, look in the mirror again and say:

"I am beautiful the way I am"

Because you are.
You are unique in your own way.
This might sound cliché and cheesy but I found out that it is actually true.
There is no such thing as ugly…
Ugly does not exist.
A person with acne is not ugly.
A person with hooded eyes is not ugly.
A person who is curvy is not ugly.
The only ugly thing is society and its messed up “standards”.
Hate comments are ugly.
Making fun of someone’s insecurities or flaws is ugly.
Looking disgusted by someone is beyond ugly.
You need to understand that…
You are not ugly, never were never will be.
Society is…
So, get up and stand in front of that mirror.
Get up, and face yourself.
Get up, and stare back at that reflection.
Find the beauty in that reflection.
Look at your deep honey colored eyes, or at your beautiful frizzy hair.
Look at thighs and appreciate them, look at your stomach and love it.
Make that mirror your best friend…

Self-hatred is not an easy thing to go through.
I have despised myself for as long as I can remember.
I have always hated my pale skin and the dark purplish circles underneath my eyes.
I have always hated my body and my weight.
I have always hated my frizzy hair and my eyes that did not work properly.

But then what?
I am supposed to keep torturing myself for eternity?
No.
I'm done with pain.
I don’t want to feel pain anymore.
So I looked at myself one day and I decided that my eyes are not so bad, that my hair flattered my skin, that my body is actually pretty nice and that my skin tone is pretty.
Because they are, I was just blind.
I just had to look.
And that is all you have to do too.
Just look.
Replace the hatred with love.
Find beauty in flaws.
Look for light in darkness.

I won’t lie, it is a long way; but it is so much better than being stuck with yourself in such a dark place.
And again, I won’t lie, some days will be dark again but they will pass so much more smoothly and comfortably…

I really hope this article helped you in some way...

If you are struggling and you feel alone do not hesitate in messaging me.
i would love to listen to you and try to help you.

Stay strong
Stay you,

Lots of love,
~Reem

if you are interested in reading the rest of my articles: