1. Have a mantra

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In this time of seemingly unbearable (how dare he?!?!?) kind of grief, there was always one statement I looked to for comfort when going through the tragedy that is a break-up. That statement being: “He's very dreamy, but he is not the sun. You are.”

Maybe it’s your tenth time experiencing a broken heart, or maybe it’s the first.
Either way, no matter how amazing or perfect you believe this person to be, it’s crucial to remember that even the people who mean most to you are never as big, bright, or important as the sun.
The great news is this: You're the sun in your own universe and always have been. Remember that you’re capable of shining bright and providing yourself the same kind of happiness that the sun does, without dependence on someone.

2. Have a support system

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Only people who make you feel good should surround you -- it's this simple.
Reach out to friends, even if you haven’t talked to them in a while, go out, and have fun.
Learning to provide comfort for yourself is a valuable tool to have in your toolbox, but it can get really difficult to deal with everything alone. Therefore, make an effort to build your support system, spend time with loved ones often. And...
Pro tip: having two-three people you fully trust and can confide in about your deepest thoughts and feelings will help a ton. You can ask them for reassurance, comfort, and advice always. These are the people you should call and text when the thought of your ex creeps up on you and you're tempted to reach out to him/her. Your best friends are the ones there to take that place and keep you in check while loving and supporting you.

3. Feel everything

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We too often don’t allow ourselves to feel. We reject pain, tell ourselves we shouldn’t be feeling a certain way, and look for all the ways to feel better instead of facing pain head on. But, now more than ever, it’s especially important to really lean into what you’re feeling.
It can be difficult to not know the answers to your emotions or how to navigate through them, but instead of trying to find answers, take this time for introspection. Cry it out with a tub of ice cream, take a walk outside and embrace what you're feeling, and always give yourself permission to just feel when the waves of emotions take hold of you.

4. Be careful of distraction

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It’s smart to work through your emotions, but it’s also nice to get a break from them. That’s why many people resort to distractions during heartache, including but not limited to:
random hook-ups, seeking affection/validation from the wrong people, one-night stands, drinking and partying the night away to “forget” issues, and even using drugs.
However, if you distract yourself in a way that isn’t good for your mind and body, the only thing your distractions are doing are destructing you. Distract but don't destruct.
Be wary of how you distract yourself! Maybe opt for a new Netflix series, try a new and hardcore work-out, watch some vloggers online for fun and inspiration.. Which leads to my next step!

5. Channel your emotion

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Physical and mental release is imperative to the healing process. All these new emotions need a place to go because having them pent up in your body will physically make you feel worse.
When feeling sad, angry, confused, anything -- it's integral to pour your energy into activities like cardio, a nice hike outdoors, journaling, creating a piece of art, taking on a new project, etc.
Word of advice: Working out becomes especially important because not only is it good for your heart, but it’s good for a broken heart, being that it's the body's natural way of release.
Working up a sweat triggers the release of endogenous opioids, also known as endorphins, which are literally the body’s built-in mood boosters that make you feel good.

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Not to be dramatic, but nothing is worse than someone breaking your heart (AM I RIGHT?!)
But, break-ups are inevitable and we all experience them at one point or another. The goal is to learn to live happily and comfortably in your own skin without the validation and help of a partner.
You are capable of finding the love that your ex gave you within yourself, and I promise that self-love is better than anything anyone else could ever offer you.

Written by: @madeeeelineclaire