I decided that I would give writing out some advice a try. I, myself, have struggled with a lot of things - self confidence & self love being two big ones. Recently, I have been a lot happier, and a lot of that has been due to me realizing what toxic habits I had developed. I decided that I would write out some things that I did, and ways that I fixed them. Hopefully this helps you if you have ever struggled with self love, anxiety, insecurity, or anything similar to those listed.

One of the first things I noticed was just how negative I was being, about everything. I was so down on myself, and what I looked like. I never thought I was good enough - for anybody. I was incredibly insecure (I do still struggle with insecurity - but it has gotten so much better). I would get sad about a friend not wanting to hang out with me, and would then convince myself that the reason they didn't/couldn't hang out with me was because they didn't like me. I overthought EVERYTHING. If any person would glance at me in any negative way, I would assume I was doing something wrong, or that they thought I was ugly. I had struggled with anxiety for a long time, but experiencing what I did made the anxiety a lot worse. I would struggle with sleeping, I didn't want to go anywhere, and I never asked people to spend time with me because I was scared to be rejected. This was an incredibly toxic way to live. As I began to realize this habit was hurting me so badly, I tried to work on ways to fix it.

I began fixing these struggles by talking with someone - a close friend, my parents, my boyfriend - and explaining how I felt. I'll explain advice they gave me in two different sections, one being the religious (Christianity) aspect and the other not. Please feel free to read either or both sections to help you out. :)

I am a Christian, and so I began reading some positive Bible verses about my image. I realized that the idea that I was fat or ugly was a lie. I prayed a lot about ways I could convince myself that I was beautiful and that I had a purpose. I started saying "Satan, I rebuke you in Jesus' name- get out of my head and stop spreading your lies." I would cry a lot, I was broken and very bruised, but saying those words made me feel so much better. I needed Satan to remove himself from my mind and stop telling me lies like I was fat and ugly. As soon as I said these words, I would feel better. It was a way to cast out these negative feelings and remove a dark, glooming cloud looming over my head. Overtime, I would feel so much better, because I no longer felt manipulated into believing the lies I was being told.
I'll share some bible verses that I find inspiring below:

"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven." -Luke 6:37

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." -Philippians 4:6

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." -Romans 5:8

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud." -1 Corinthians 13:4

And lastly,
"It [love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:7&8a

Seeing as all of my followers may not share the same religion I do, I wanted to make a section in this article about ways you can help yourself be positive and love yourself. A way that has certainly helped me is wearing outfits that I feel confident in. You should always feel confident in what you wear. Remember: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!! If anyone says otherwise, they are LYING TO YOU. I know that it's easy to say and harder to believe, but I promise you that it is true. Every single person on this planet is beautiful in their own unique ways. The world has manipulated what the word "beauty" means. In fact, in Rupi Kaur's book "The Sun and Her Flowers," she states, "It is a trillion-dollar industry that would collapse if we believed we were beautiful enough already. Their concept of beauty is manufactured. I am not." I ADORE this quote because it is so unbelievingly TRUE!! Each and every one of you is absolutely stunning in different ways.

Rupi Kaur's poetry has been so inspiring to me, and I want to share some of my favorite quotes from her two books "Milk and Honey" and "The Sun and Her Flowers." I encourage those that are struggling with anxiety and self-loathing to purchase these books - you will not regret it. :)

From "Milk and Honey"
"Give to those
who have nothing
to give to you."

"You must enter a relationship
with yourself
before anyone else"

From "The Sun and Her Flowers"
"Despite knowing
they won't be here for long
they still choose to live
their brightest lives


"And here you are living
despite it all"

"You can imitate a light like mine
but you cannot become it"

That is all, thank you for reading! I hope you enjoyed and feel encouraged. :) Remember to be positive about who you are. Also, I beg you, always remember how special you are. If any of you ever need someone to talk to about struggles in your life, feel free to message me. I love all of you dearly and am so proud of each and every one of you.

- a. xx