Surprise, surprise! I'm back to you with another article.

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I posted yesterday, so normally, writer me would disappear in a puff of smoke for a couple weeks, but I'm encouraged to become more consistent by the heartmeltingly positive response that I'm getting so, thank you, guys, I'll try my best

Speaking Up

If somebody gave me a dollar whenever I was told to speak louder, and then get interrupted, you'd see GOLD written at the bottom of my avatar : D

'' In group settings, men are 75% more likely to speak up than women. And when a woman does speak up, it's statistically probable her male counterparts will either interrupt her, or speak over her. It's not because they're rude, it's science. The female voice is scientifically proven to be more difficult for a male brain to register. What does this mean? It means, in this world, where men are bigger, stronger, faster, if you're not ready to fight, the silence will kill you. Don't let fear keep you quiet. You have a voice. So use it. Speak up. Raise your hands. Shout your answers. Make yourself heard. Whatever it takes. Just find your voice and when you do, fill the damn silence. ''
Meredith Grey
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So, how do we speak so that people want to listen?
I'll try to explain the main do-s and don't-s. But make sure you listen to this TED talk by Julian Treasure, which gave me an inspiration to write this article in the first place:

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  • Cut out negativity from life & speech

We all know negative thinking can ruin anything for you. It's no surprise that negativity can also make you hard to listen to. Of course, we should talk to our close ones about our problems, but if only thing that ever comes out of your mouth is complaints, it's unlikely people will look forward to talking to you. As well as this, your own words will make you tired. Instead of ''why me'' say ''try me'', love.

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  • Be trustworthy

And I'm not only talking about being generally honest. Your words have a big influence on who you are as a person and how other people see you. So choose them wisely. Don't gossip, don't exaggerate things. Remember: white lies are still lies. Just try to stay true to yourself and others. Soon, you'll become the most competent person in the room and your opinions will be highly valued.

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  • Use your body language

Sometimes, it's not about what you say, but how you say it. Even when you're not actually confident, you should pretend. Just slow down, breath deeply and watch your posture. Feel free to use hand gestures, but don't let it become too distracting. If you lift up your chin and tilt your head slightly, it can make your voice sound more clear. Not to mention that you'll look badass ))

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Be your word

One of the most important things for gaining someone's trust, and therefore, attention, is to actually do what you say. Stay loyal to your words, don't make promises you can't keep. Words need to be proven by actions at some point, otherwise they just can't be taken seriously.

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  • Find your Pitch Perfect

I don't know about you, but having a voice with a high pitch always irritated me. It makes you sound insecure and nervous and you don't want that when you are having an argument or presentation. Here's a quick tip : you can find your perfect pitch by saying, “uh-huh” as if you were casually saying “yes” to a friend’s question. An expert Katie Schwartz says the pitch of your voice when you speak should match the “uh.”

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  • Be a voice not an echo

Don't fear being original, read a lot, listen to interesting conversations. You can even try taking part in debates or just make sure you always state your opinions when you feel like it. Yes, correct someone if they're being rude, yes, be skeptical, but remember to stay genuine: be strong enough so you're able to change your point of view, because that's what independence really is.

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  • Pour positivity in your life & speech.

Your words and even your actions can be easily lost, but people never forget how you made them feel. So, try to make them feel good. Not only will it make you pleasant to speak to, but also a decent human being. You know how they say it: '' World is full of kind people, if you can't find one, be one.''

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  • Make a room for silence

Finally, let's take a little break. Sometimes, the loudest thing you can do is not say anything at all. If you want to be good at communication, you should allow silence when it’s effective or called for; that might connect you with the audience in a way that words can't. Just make sure shyness isn't the reason of it.

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That's it for now, thank you for reading it till the end.
Our voice is probably the greatest weapon we own, so we should know how to use it and actually make a change with it. ♡


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