Hello wonderful, wonderful people, beautiful souls; and special greetings to all of you that show me so much love every single day!

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Before I start talking about everything I know about happiness and washing your brains out lol – yeah, that’s why I’m here, that’s my mission, trying to make you love life so much, so beware – I wanna let you know that I set a posting schedule AND I’ll be posting every Monday, Friday AND a relationship/confidence column every Sunday! So, if there are any questions, or article requests, send me a message and let me know!

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And now, let’s talk about what this article is really about, shall we?

Every single beating heart on this planet wants just one thing - happiness.

What happens a lot of times, is that so many fu#king people get lost in their search for happiness and better life. It doesn’t matter what happens, people think that happiness is always somewhere out there.

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Today I want to give you my own recipe for happy life – it’s free, but yeah, you can leave the tip lol.
Here are the ingredients:

1. STOP TRYING TO BE HAPPY, DAMN

I know that if I asked you What would make you happy right now?, you’d already have prepared speech about “the new job, new car, better relationship, more money, a trip to Cuba, moving to New York, have sex with Jason Statham or move into Kardashian family”.

Sorry to disappoint you – happiness is a state of mind, not SOMETHING you do, get or achieve.

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Because of social media (mostly), we are brain-washed into thinking that material things can and will make us happier:

Buy X and you’ll be happy.
Look like Y and you’ll be so confident!
Do Z and your dreams will come true.

We compare our lives to social media influencers and often lose ourselves because we are convinced that everyone is having more fun than us; is richer than us; is happier than us; has a better job than us and so on… As a result, we get stuck in that never-ending circle of self-improvement.

Ever wondered why we have people that are happy in war and people who are sad and bored at weddings?

Ever wondered why so many celebrities and millionaires become addicts or even kill
themselves?

There you go.

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2.STOP MISTAKING HAPPINESS FOR PLEASURE

Yes, pleasure is… Let’s say GOOD.

But, it’s not the same as happiness. It gives us a relief, it can make us feel happy at the moment, but not long-term.

Pleasure is a quick fix – something that we fixate on, a superficial form of satisfaction.

It’s a consequence of something you do or get involved in.

Example: you see that awesome purse and think OMG IT WOULD MAKE ME SO HAPPY IF I ONLY HAD IT. You’re mind-tricked and before you know it, you’re swiping your card at the cash-register, “buying happiness”. You feel awesome and excited for a few days, and that’s it. And that, ladies and gentleman, is pleasure. A quick fix.

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3.LET GO OF “ALWAYS BE HAPPY” IDEOLOGY

“Always be happy” ideology or obsessive positivity (in my opinion) is thinking that being happy means that we always have a smile on our face, we never feel “bad” emotions, and everything in our life is sooo damn smooth.

BULLSHIT!

That’s not the way it goes.

Being positive is not about running away from your feelings and trying to sprinkle happiness over any crappy feeling that appears – it’s about what you’re going to do about it!

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Deal with your emotions, let yourself feel - you can’t clean the house if you don’t see where dust is!

Relax, baby. Breathe. You’re going to be alright.

Create ridiculous standards for yourself and then savor the inevitable failure. Learn from it. Live it. Let the ground crack and rocks crumble around you because that’s how something amazing grows, through the cracks. - Mark Manson

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