Hi guys!

If you follow me and have checked out a few of my collections, you'll notice most of them are about memes or surviving major heartbreak. Well, this is going to be less about memes and more about Narcissistic abuse and how to spot it.

I met the most charming man of my entire life my freshman year of high school. For four years I tolerated cheating, manipulation, and abuse all because I felt like it was my fault. Like nothing I ever did was enough for him. It's hard for people to understand the true deception and pain you feel and how hard it is to recover from something like this. But I'm right here with you guys <3 Here's everything you need to know about Narcissistic Abuse:
Narcissist definition - a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.
Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance and exaggerates achievements and talents
- Dreams of unlimited power, success, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- Believes he or she is special and unique, and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions
- Requires excessive admiration
- Unreasonably expects special, favorable treatment or compliance with his or her wishes
- Exploits and takes advantage of others to achieve personal ends
- Lacks empathy for the feelings and needs of others
- Envies others or believes they’re envious of him or her
- Has arrogant behaviors or attitudes

1. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. It is not your fault. You do not deserve this abuse and you are not weak for not being able to leave. A narc can smell an empath from a mile away. The only way they are allowed to survive is by means of a supply. They drain you of everything you have, ESPECIALLY energy. They're like human vampires, totally void of emotions. They manipulate you into staying and punish you when you try to leave, then make you believe it's your fault. It isn't, and you are not crazy.
2. ABUSE CAN SOME FROM PARENTS OR/AND A ROMANTIC PARTNER. It took me a while to figure this one out. I was so attracted to this evil man and I couldn't understand why. All my friends were repulsed by him and couldn't even stand his vibe. They knew he was bad and told me to stay away. Obviously, I didn't listen because we're here. It's because children grow up attempting to recreate their family circle. Essentially, girls grow up looking for men like our father and boys grow up looking for girls like their mother. It's subconscious, of course. Emotional abuse to me was comfortable. But it doesn't have to stay that way. Once you are aware of what is going on, you can proceed with caution and hopefully the red flags will be much more clear.
3. A NARCS BIGGEST FEAR IS YOU DISCOVERING THEIR TRUE SELF. When a narc first shows up, he is EVERYTHING you have ever wanted. Oh my god, he's fucking perfect. He fills every hole in your heart, makes you laugh, showers you with love. There is nothing about him that you don't like. Sigh. Then. Then it starts to go bad. He slowly starts to pull away, become distant. He starts to slowly hate on your accomplishments and friends. Everything that makes you happy will not be approved by him. He is a monster. He will NEVER EVER EVER be wrong. Ever. He is never wrong. He will blame you for every argument and will destroy you if you humiliate him. He will punish you if he thinks you're being too independent or can live without him. If you so much as call him out on his crap, he will torture you. The reason for this is because the person he presents to the world isn't real. It's a mask he wears to catch and find prey. As soon as you know this, it's the end of his rope. I started to catch on to the monster he was and he knew it. So he humiliated me. But I didn't react. And the game with me wasn't fun anymore so he found another supply and rubbed it in my face. When I left, he went into narcissistic rage. When a narc loses a supply, he feels extreme anger because for a second he started to feel real human emotion. That only makes him angrier and more abusive. His deepest fear came true and so he ran away.
4. GET. OUT. NOW. It is so heard to leave a relationship of this nature. It is so so so so hard. They know how to keep you on a rope. But honey, you will feel so much better when you leave. Don't get me wrong, it will suck at first. Like a lot. You will feel so hurt and so torn. It's like ripping off a limb. Your whole identity was based on him. And now he's gone. You will feel like you don't even know who you are anymore. It's okay. It's all okay. There is life after this death and you will be okay. I love you so so much, stay strong.

If you want to read more about Narcissistic abuse, check out these links below:
- https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/11/11-devastating-signs-youve-been-abused-by-a-malignant-narcissist/
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201709/how-spot-narcissistic-abuse
- https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/relationships/narcissistic-abuse
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rLCPDYt1wYk&t=761s

If you or someone you know suffers from NAS, please tell them to contact me.I want to hear all of your stories and listen <3 Here are ten ways to get your life back after abuse:
-https://medium.com/@SoulGPS/10-steps-to-getting-your-life-back-after-narcissistic-abuse-96b5c74af29c

Thanks for reading!!! Let me know what you want me to talk about next week.