Hello lovely hearters! ♡

I'm Selene (@spiritfully) and this article has a few tips to help someone going through a breakup (or heartbreak in general) to get over it. Recently, I've had a friend that went through a bad break-up and asked me for help, which inspired me to write this article.

"Here’s to strong women, may we know them, may we be them, may we raise them."

1 | Clean out your life and remove him completely.

Get rid of anything that reminds you of him—room included. This may seem unnecessary but it's not. Delete their contact, delete or get rid of pictures you have together, delete their messages etc. and replace them with new things. Don’t torture yourself! It might hurt to do this at first, but it'll help you to stop your thoughts from wandering back to them.

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2 | Spend time with your gal pals.

Remember those friends that you had before you started dating that guy? Yeah them, call and hangout with some friends that you maybe haven’t spent as much time with when you were invested in your relationship. Best friends + chocolate + ice cream + comedy movies = a girl who’s having too much fun to dwell on the guy that hurt her. Don’t be afraid to get together for a girly night and let your feelings out; after all, that’s what friends are for!

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3 | Work on yourself.

Pamper yourself. Get a massage and a fake tan or have a bubble bath and get a manicure; anything that gets you out of the house and away from feeling lonely and sad with leftover feelings. Go out and have fun! Get a haircut, you’ll feel like a completely new person once you get the heaviness of the hair you let grow out off of your shoulders. Treat yourself to a shopping spree, get that nice necklace you’ve been wanting him to get for you, you’re an independent woman, love yourself!

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4 | Don’t call, text, or stalk him.

It might seem tempting to check your Instagram or Facebook and see how he’s taking your breakup and what he’s doing but—don’t do it. You don’t need to anymore. After all that’s said and done, you’ve gone your separate ways. Don’t stew on what may have been, it’s already over, try to let go and move on.

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5 | No negative thoughts.

After a breakup you may feel like you’re not good enough, not pretty enough, just not enough. Get those thoughts out of your head right away, they’re not true and won’t help your self-esteem. Don’t compare yourself to other girls, don’t ask yourself what she has that you don’t. You are unique and beautiful, never forget that. It’s not your fault he chose to leave, so please don’t think that it is.

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6 | Don’t be afraid to cry or ask for help.

Often times it may seem hopeless and in your despair, you may think that no one is there for you. Not true! Ask someone else who’s been through heartbreak, maybe they’ll have some tips for how you can move past this bump in your life. Don’t be afraid to call in your girls to have an impromptu crying session. Crying is normal, it doesn’t make you weak. Let out your feelings to those who love you, it’ll help you move on. Also, don’t forget your mum, they really do know best! Don’t push her away if she comes to hug and comfort you; remember there are always people out there who love you!

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7 | Make a list of all the good things in your life.

Think about how much you have and all the wonderful things about yourself. We all love at least one thing about ourselves so dig deep & list ‘em. Focusing on the positives about yourself will help your self-esteem and chase negative thoughts away. Remember, you aren’t what others think of you but what you think of yourself. You are lovely, strong, and independent.

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8 | Remember to eat.

Sometimes grief can cause you to forget about yourself and your surroundings. Don’t forget to eat, or on the other hand, also don’t binge eat. Starving yourself won’t help anything, it won’t bring him back so don’t do it. An eating disorder on top of heartbreak means even more stress for you and personally, eating food makes me happier. Focus on yourself, no negative vibes allowed.

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9 | Keep a journal and write your feelings down.

Instead of texting him or calling him and trying to get him back, write down all of your feelings, what you’re going through, and what you want to say to him. Let it all out. Put everything you possibly can into words and when you’re done, dispose of it or burn it. You don’t need that kind of sadness in your life, you deserve better!

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10 | Remember that there is someone out there waiting for you.

This is so important I can’t stress this enough. The end of one relationship is not the end of the world. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and once you get over him there will be someone else waiting at the end of the line to love and cherish you for the lovely person you are. Don’t move on too quickly or try for a rebound, take your time, healing takes time. But, when you are ready, feel empowered knowing that there is someone out there just waiting to meet and to love you!

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Anyways, that’s all for this article babes, see you next time!

Lots of love,
Selene 🌹

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