...if we choose to look at it that way.

You're probably not living your life the way you want to live it. There are many reasons, but it all generally boils down to some kind of fear. Because you feel so insecure and not good enough. Because you worry how others percieve you and what they will think of you.

When you're nervious before a date and think :

"I hope I dont say anything that will make him not want to see me again."

When you're about to get intimate with somebody and suddenly get paralized and worry:

"Am I acting weird right now? What he might think of me?"

You just worry about the result of it all.

Why do we do this? Because we worry that we might embarass ourselves, make fool of ourselves, that we might fail. This overthinking prevents us from enjoying the moment and situation that is right in front of us. Our chaotic mind is the lens through which we see this world around us.

We want to mentain our image and we worry that we might ruin it so along the way we stop taking risks. And then we stop living. And growing. And collecting experiences. And then eventually enjoying life the way we should.

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How about changing the way you look at this all?
Maybe seeing ourselves as the tourists in our lives can switch the perspective and therefore the feeling we get while doing things that are fear-provoking. Because tourists see everything as an opportunity to learn and grow. Tourists actually get to experience the place and people around them. They view life as one big fun.

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Start to see situations as opportunities to acquire precious life experiences. Instead of worrying how they will percieve you, switch your perspective and think how they can be able to entertain me instead? What interesting things they can tell me? What can I learn from them? Feel like an observer rather the one being observed.

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Talk to strangers. Do things that you're scared to do. Because fear indicates what you really want to do or be. Make your life an interesting story.

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Even if you make mistakes, you inevitably grow from them. So you might as well give it a shot.