Your relationship likely begins how most others do: innocent flirtation, butterflies in the stomach, late-night phone calls and comes the desire to be together all the times.

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You latch onto his heart and dive in without a second thought. All youโ€™re aware of are the foggy feelings pushing up against you, like your face against his.
Itโ€™s chemistry; itโ€™s passionate and itโ€™s spontaneous. Nothing else matters.

But then suddenly, in the blink of an eye, it does.

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nothing else matters, but does it?

Weโ€™ve all been there and thereโ€™s nothing to be ashamed of. We get lost in our hearts and fall off the grid.
A few months go by and you start to realize the consequences behind these blurry-minded decisions. Reality hits hard and it falls out all over the table.

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few months go by and you realize the consequences of those blurry-minded decisions

Turns out his quirks arenโ€™t cute anymore; in fact, theyโ€™re quite annoying. Holding hands all the time now feels tiring, and cuddling is no longer the same โ€” it has all become a burden in the nick of time.

You feel resentful, mad and long for something new because this person isnโ€™t filling you up the same way anymore.
You start to wonder, โ€œDo I still even have feelings for this person? What changed?โ€

Well, you did.

The only difference is that you didnโ€™t change when you fell out of love with this man. You changed when you fell in love in the first place.

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what changed? you did.

Sometimes, getting so caught up in the idea of something deprives people of acknowledging their true nature. You stop being yourself, and so does he.

You tell him stories about the past, but the present is a blank page. Then, you run out of things to talk about, and thatโ€™s that.

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... and that's that.

As fun as relationships can be in the beginning, itโ€™s always important to consider beyond that. If you see a problematic pattern and are unclear about whose fault it is, keep in mind that it's probably no one's fault; itโ€™s just not the right time.

Not all of us are lucky enough to stumble upon the love of our lives on the first try, and thatโ€™s just real life.

"If you're lucky, I mean, if you're the luckiest person on the entire planet - the person you love decides to love you back." - One Tree Hill
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After all, we're all just human beings. Weโ€™re selfish. And you know what, thatโ€™s okay. We are allowed to choose and pick and filter what work best for us.

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Now that you know it can be nobody's fault for the matter, you should feel like what an experience that was. We are still so young and we got so many time left to figure it all out. Maybe love is just right around the corner. Maybe it's not.

In the meantime, get out there, grab a hold of your aspirations and do something incredible.

best wishes,
m.

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