"We might be the master of our own thoughts still we are the slaves of our own emotions."

But how can you have control over your emotions? It seems impossible to have any influence on how you feel if you feel very down. However, these tips might help you influence your emotions. And feel how you would likw to feel.

Be honest with yourself

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It is important to not deny your feelings. Have you ever had someone ask a polite, "How are you?" that prompted you to respond with an instinctive "Fine" although you knew wholeheartedly that your response was a white lie? If you know what you feel and you are dissatisfied with it, you can do something about it.

Avoid certain circumstances

If you realise what it is that causes you to experience certain emotions you can avoid circumstances that trigger unwanted emotions. If you know that you're most likely to get angry when you're in a hurry (and you become angry when others force you to wait), then don't leave things for the last minute.

Never say: "I can't do that."

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Recognize and challenge negative ideas that come from feeling inadequate. Inadequacy often comes from low self-esteem, the idea that you aren't good enough to do something or deserve someone. Recognizing these distortions and challenging them when they show up will help train your brain to reject the "automatic" assumption that you aren't "good enough." If you overcome this feeling, you can rule the world!

Put it in perspective

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It can be easy to get swept up in an emotion and end up reacting in ways that don't benefit you. If you feel yourself start to spiral into an uncontrollable emotional reaction, take a conscious step back from what's going on and focus on your physical senses. Challenge irrational assumptions about yourself. There are many irrational ideas that repeatedly upset us. They are all false, but many of us are inclined to believe at least some of them part of the time. This can help divert your mind from feeling overwhelmed and keep you in the present moment. It often helps to see things in a rational way, like you are someone else watching you. Often you see things way more frightening or terrible than they are. You'll be fine!

Talk to someone you trust

If you feel down, one of the best things you can do is sitting down and talking to someone. This can be anyone: a family member, a friend or even someone from an online community like WHI. Sometimes a good conversation is the solution if you feel out of control emotionally because you can't see a way to resolve the situation that's causing the feeling. An alternative to this is writing in a journal. Journaling about your emotions can help you learn to identify your feelings. It will also help you learn to recognize what may trigger certain emotions and will help you recognize helpful and unhelpful ways of dealing with them.

Focus on your breathing

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When your body experiences intense emotions, you may enter the body's "fight or flight" mode. This response activates your sympathetic nervous system by sending adrenaline and other chemicals racing through your body, raising your heart rate, making your breathing shallower, and causing your muscles to feel tight and tense. Focussing on breathing deeply and evenly will help you feel calmer. Try to inhale through your nose, hold your breath for two seconds and exhale through your mouth.

I hope you found this article interesting or helpful. If you do not have anyone to talk to, or if you just want to talk to someone that does not know you, feel free to send me a message.

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Sources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/modern-mentality/201802/10-tips-help-you-take-control-your-emotions

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201502/5-ways-get-your-unwanted-emotions-under-control

https://www.wikihow.com/Gain-Control-of-Your-Emotions