โ€œWe can't hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can loveโ€ - Lori Deschene.
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1. All the people you're comparing yourself to, compare themselves to others too.

We all compare ourselves to other people, including those people who seem to have it all.

When you actually get to understand somebody, rather than look at them through judgment and jealousy, you'll be able to see them for what they really areโ€” human beings. They are just beautiful imperfections just as you are. And they are also going through the same universal challenges that you are.

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they are only beautifully imperfect human beings just as you are

2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar.

There's a quote that said, โ€œDon't believe in everything you think.โ€
Thoughts are just thoughts, and sometimes they can be very unhealthy and exhausting.

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thoughts are just thoughts, don't ever wholeheartedly believe in them

3. There is more right than wrong in you.

This powerful reminder is inspired by Jon Kabat-Zinn: โ€œUntil you stop breathing, there's more right with you than wrong with you.โ€

Whatever you do, remember that there are lots of good things in your life, such as the fact that you are alive, and that you are breathing, and you are totally able to pave new paths whenever you choose.

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there are more right than wrong in you

4. You deserve love the most when you feel like you need it the least.

You may find it difficult to accept love and understanding from others when in the state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But you should keep in mind that love is actually the greatest gift you can receive during such times.

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you deserve love the most

5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the โ€œnowโ€ before you can reach the โ€œlaterโ€.

One thing about making changes and reaching for the next rung on the ladder is that you cannot fully feel satisfied with where you're going until you can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where you are.

Embrace and make peace with where you are. And your journey toward something new will feel much more rewarding.

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embrace and make peace w/ your current self

6. Focus on how far you've come, rather than on how far you have left to go.

What you don't seem to realize is that working toward our goals and being willing to put yourself out there, are accomplishments within themselves, regardless of your failures.

Instead of hating yourself for messing up and stumbling backward, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, for making progress, and for coming as far as you have.

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look how far you've come

7. You can't hate your way into loving yourself.

Telling yourself what a failure you are won't take you anywhere. Telling yourself you're not living up to your full potential won't help you reach a higher potential.
Telling yourself you're worthless and unlovable won't make you feel any more worthy or lovable.

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This may sound annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself โ€”regardless of who you are and where you stand.

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You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself that.

xo,
m.

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