In March of 2015, I experienced my first real breakup. And let me just tell you, it sucked. It really did. My partner had fallen out of love and although I had too, I didn't want to face the truth because after spending almost a year with someone who meant so much to me, I couldn't bear to realize that that person chose to walk out of my life and that their path would no longer involve me. Now, I'm not going to go on about how horrible the breakup was but about the journey it took me from the breakup to me today.

1) First things first, you can take as long as you want. You are not obligated to get over it quickly. Healing a broken heart takes time and that length of time all depends on your feelings and the situation of the breakup. I mean, I took a year and a half to get over mine. It was tough. About 3 months after the breakup, my partner found someone whom he quickly became infatuated with and it caused me to be in a deeper pain of grief and "moving on".

2) Release yourself from social media. This is possibly one of the best things that you can do after a breakup. After my breakup, I constantly checked my ex-partners social media pages that it became an unhealthy obsession. I feared he found someone else and that she was prettier than me or that he'd go out partying and I no longer possessed the right to know where he went. But with a lot of guts, I disabled all of my social media pages and boy was that a relief! I no longer felt I had to check social media every 10 minutes to see if he'd post something and I didn't have to constantly check some of his close friends (girls) pages to see if one of them were the ones that he had a thing for.

3) Better Yourself. You don't truly glow until your at your brightest and happiest. Get involved in a new hobby. And that can go from hiking up to knitting. Or try a new trend. Anything really that you find intriguing and time worthy. We all have our likes and dislikes and it shouldn't matter about how cool it is because you really want to try to better yourself not yourself to be shaped into the world around you.

Happiness comes at the moment least expected. And sure happiness won't come exactly once you start to do these things but at some point it does come. And I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. So sure you and your partner broke up and yes it will suck and you'll feel like your world is over but the breakup happened for a reason and if it was truly meant for you and your partner then I don't see why it can't reconcile. But if it is meant for you two after all, don't force it. It will come back on its own terms when it feels ready to come back. And don't obsess over it either because that's just very unhealthy. Just Do You.