I wrote an article titled “What Hurts the Most” a few months after my break up with a guy I dated for 3 years in high school. I published it about a year ago on WHI (go read it if you have not!) It has been 3 years since our break up and a lot has changed since I wrote that article. I decided to write about an update of my life since then. This article is title “The Rainbow After the Rain.” It is more on a religious base just for future warning. I went into a really dark place after my break up which is around the time I wrote my first article “What Hurts the Most.” I shut out my friends became very distant from my family. Before that, I was very social and loved to go out with my friends. I was a cheerleader and loved to go to cheer every Friday night. After my break up nothing was the same though. I started to become a person I did not like at all. For about a year I remained this way. My smile that could light up a room became a frown that would make everyone’s day dark like mine. A year later a friend reached out to me to go to a youth group at church. I had not been on the right path with my faith in a while, so I finally just went ahead and went with her. That night I realized that there was no reason for me to be frowning or mad every day, and I immediately realized the blessings in my life. As I grew closer to my faith everything seemed to just work out. I became happier. Instead of feeling angry or sad about my break up, i started to just let it go. I realized that the break up was exactly what I needed to be happy. I let go of all the pain and regrets. I found out that I was stronger than I thought. What I want every girl to realize is what I realized: you do not need a guy to make you happy or stronger. You can do that all on your own and if you are a Christian girl with God. If not and you are waiting to take that step do not be afraid. Most importantly it is okay to be alone. Being alone will give you the ability to find yourself. One more key of advice: Find out who you are first. If you do not know who you are alone, then you will never know who you are with a person. Achieve your goals, focus on yourself, become based with your religion, but just make sure you find yourself first before you be with someone. “Good better best, never let it rest, until your good is better, and your better best”🔑