Don't worry this isn't a negative article! I would never ♥

I wanted to talk about how it is to be someone who sees many films and quotes all about "Following your dreams!" and "Chasing your goals!" yet being someone who doesn't have a clear goal or dream in mind. Just to clarify, I see nothing wrong with those films and quotes, if anything I agree with them, it's just that we rarely see the other side of that, the people who don't have dreams and goals yet.

I haven't really met anyone who's in the same situation, so I just wanted to put myself out there for other people who may feel the same way, same, buddy, same.

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I have a general goal y'know, be healthy, get a job I enjoy, continue the loving relationship I have, etc. Yet, I have no idea what I want to actively pursue, this is to do with employment, but also about having nothing I want to study at university.

At the end of sixth form, I went on a gap year because I had nothing I wanted to study at university, I had interests in a number of subjects but I couldn't commit to one, my interest in one alone was never that high. I tend to go through phases of interest, hopping around from one to another.

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During the start of my gap year, I felt guilt and pressure, like I should have something, something I want to do! I would constantly try to wrack my brain for something to study or to have a career, keeping myself up at night with this worrying, thinking I was an odd one out.

These feelings are what I want to address and talk people out of!

(I had to be talked out of it, heh, so thank you to those who helped me ♥)

You feel like time is running out

You have all the time in the world to find whatever you want to pursue, it doesn't matter if you wait to go to university, there are courses for people of any age, you can go back and get those qualifications you didn't get early on. Plus, you can always take online courses! Sometimes experience can be more important than qualifications, so that's also something to keep in mind.

You've only experienced a small part of your life, probably haven't been to that many places, broadened that many horizons, tried that many alternatives, met that many people who are from a different lifestyle. Explore all the possibilities, you really don't need to have it all figured out yet, don't panic! ♥

Try new things

It will happen, just keep venturing into every option, don't be afraid to try new things~ Something I regret not doing is going to more clubs during school to try out more things to see if I enjoyed them, that way I would have given myself more options to choose from. So if you're still in school, keep going to clubs and lessons outside of school in mind?

Although even after education there are still clubs and lessons for people of any age to join, don't worry~ In the end, you might end up pursuing a combination of subjects you enjoy because you just weren't meant to pursue one! Consider that an alternative to committing to just one single subject if you tend to waver between them.

The job or course doesn't exist

I know this isn't for everyone, but if there isn't a job out there that you want, make one that you want, start a business, start a something. Make your own dream. ♥ cringe Take a business course or something similar to get your starting point to then build upon it to create whatever you imagine. There are so many resources online with insight into more niche subjects if you can't find a course that's just right, use them to narrow down your interests.

If there is a job you admire that you don't know how to get into, don't be afraid to ask around online, especially if it's a career that's set up on an online platform. For example, I see a lot of digital artists/cartoonists answering questions about how they got to where they are - what courses they took, what equipment they use, etc.

Lastly, there are lots of platforms online to earn a living off of where you can work from home - like Etsy if you're a creative person or online tutoring might be for you. However, I do not mean scams such as taking online surveys to earn money, etc. Working from home might be an option to consider if you're someone with social anxiety like me. ♥

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What I recommend for you:

"Study hard, major in anything at a good college, get a good job anywhere, and make a lot of money. And one day, when you finally find what you want to do, then take that money you've saved from studying anything, and do what you really want to do without hesitation."

"There's no need to get anxious. You can catch up. There's only one thing you need to do anyway. Just do what you can do for now."

Also The School of Life has a really good book called A Job to Love and it's really helped me figure some stuff out!

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Much love ♥

Some extras for you:

The quoted extract above is from a webtoon/comic that addresses this so well and helped me find motivation during sixth form! If you want the exact page it's from Ep. 48 - All Right, Then.

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