Hi everyone!! i'm so sorry i didn't post anything recently, but i was working on this new series a want to write. Now, i have a dream, finally be able to define myself as a GirlBoss. It gives me a sense of power, control, freedom and make me proud and i want those feelings to be with be for all my life. So starting from this one i will publish Lessons about How to be a GirlBoss, that will help me and hope help you too to reach your dreams.


"Remember who you are. Without the number on the scale, your report card or your bank account. Without the amount of friends you have or the expensive things you own. Know who you are, your raw, true self."

A good GirlBoss has her life under control. She knows her merits and her flaws, she know who she was, who she is and who she wants to become. She knows that when you are conscious of what you can do (and can not do) and when you consequently believe in yourself you are unstoppable.
So the first step to be a GirlBoss is to know yourself.

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Now that we set the "why", let's focus on the "how".

That's probably the hardest part of the all process; and if you are a teenager those difficulties are amplified to the infinity. But, despite this, knowing yourself is not impossible (as an aspirant GirlBoss you should start to delete the word impossible from your dictionary).

It's all about acceptance:

Accept your feelings. Let yourself free

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Try to reject them is like dig your own grave.
Maybe you grow up in a family that have some kind of ideals but you deep inside know that those ideals don't belong to you, but you don't want to disappoint your family or have the feeling of betray them? Then remember that the great steps in history started from people who decided to stand with their ideals and values, despite what the whole society was standing for.

Of course yours don't have to be a great historical gesture, but it has to be your gesture, the courage to stand up and fiercely say what you really think. After you do that, there are two possible scenarios in front of you:
1. Family/friends or whoever accept you for who you are because love wins all differences and because they perfectly know that everyone has the right to think what he/she wants.
2. They reject you. And in that case or time will heal things or not. But remember that even if it will hurts at the beginning, after some time you will realize that you are talking about your life, not theirs, and if you are more comfortable with certain ideas and values than doesn't matter what others say, because i repeat, it is your life. You'll feel so free after doing it!

There will be always people who don't like you; the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, the way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to but truth is: it's up to you if you let them ruin your day or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are, try to be as good as you can and if that's not enough for them, it will certainly be for someone else. You are not here to please anyone. Just be a nice person and true to yourself.

Accept your limits

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Limits are not negative things and most important thing to understand about limits is that they are not unbreakable. It's like when you start a fitness or yoga class, at the very first start you feel like a trunk, but then after few weeks of hard work you realize that you can actually do much more than what you did the first times.
This can be applied to limits, working hard every day you can break them or better push them in a higher position till they break.

The sky's the limit. Your Sky. Your Limit.

Know and accept your virtues

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Are you a kind person? A positive person? A productive person?
I perfectly know that some of you won't understand easily and quickly what are their virtues , in that case you can also build them. You want to be a kind person? Work on that part of you and do something nice every day. Or you want to be an ambitious person? Than work a little harder every day in everything you do. And so on... Pretend is not always a synonym of fake, sometimes it can be related to hopes and goals.
Once you fInd them, accept them. AWARE: modesty can bring you to shyness, you should never hide your merits or be ashamed to let people see what you are good in. Virtues are positive things (but careful, don't transform it into arrogance or presumption).

The 10 noble virtues: courage, truth, wisdom, fidelity, discipline, justice, perseverance, resourcefulness, kindness, patience.

Accept your flaws in order to be stronger

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Flaw is not always related to weak. Don't waste time hiding flaws, because dear, they can't be hide, and people, mean people will individuate them and maybe use them to destroy you. You shouldn't be ashamed of you flaws, of whatever kind, because they are part of how you are, and you are amazing, don't forget that.
As a GirlBoss would do, recognize you flaws, accept them or fight them always be aware of all the thing people can use against you, so that you can prevent all their attempts to destroy you.

once you've accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.