We are designed to make us think about other's thoughts. How does he think about me? How do I look in his eyes? What should I do to please him?
Stop it! Stop thinking about this irrelevant questions. You are how you design yourself and that is entirely in you hand. When deciding HOW you want to be, it's not about how you SHOULD be. Creating you is youre work/job/emplyment after your script. Not after the script of another. Do not make it what they say. Be confident, be creativ, be original.
If you know who you are, then do not forget that. If someone thinks he has to tell others who you are and it's not true then show those who think you have to condemn you for rumors that you're a very different and especially wonderful person.