When you're at an event or see someone whom you admire from afar, the hardest part of socializing for many people is about initiating a conversation. If you think you're the only one who finds trouble to start a conversation, then you're not alone my friend.

As I'm being a shy person, it was extremely difficult to start a conversation, even I feels nervous sometimes. It felts like, what if I'd make fun of myself by saying wrong things at the wrong time? Then I realized, I was doing a mistake for not making the first move and waiting for someone to start a conversation. Simply I was missing the chances to form new connections or friendships.

However, I think If you pay a little attention to what should be said and when then it will be a lot easier to start a conversation. Let's do this together!

Always keep in mind/remember these 3 things before approaching someone for a conversation:

Think Positively: Not every person you meet will share the same opinion as you. They may dislike or even disagree with your point of views, which is totally fine. Everyone is different and have different thinkings. Don't take things personally.

Look Presentable: No, you don't have to must look like a cover model for a fashion magazine. By means of looking presentable, you have to keep small basic things in mind, such as, make sure to you wear clean clothes and smells good.

Be Polite: This may sound too much, but don't be rude or arrogant when you are talking with someone for the first time. Afterall a good first impression lasts and can create wonders.

Now let's start a conversation!

Start with a greeting

❝A simple hello could lead to a million things.❞
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It can be the hardest part of starting a conversation with someone you don't know, but it's the most polite or respective way to start a conversation with anyone you have just met for the first time.

Hi and hello are most frequently form of greeting. While 'Hi' is informal than 'Hello' and can be used with friends and dear ones. Whereas Hello can be used with colleagues and officials. However, make an eye contact, smile and make a greeting. Make sure not to stare and roll eyes at them, they might dislike and find this as a rude behavior.

Introduce yourself

❝That's the point of life, you know? To meet new people.❞
— Sherman Alexie
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When you meet someone for the first time, it's most likely they may not know about you. Introduce yourself if it's necessary and ask about their information such as name and occupation. Make a note here, don't ask too many personal questions in the first meeting. Asking too many information, such as phone numbers, e-mails, and house address may sound creepy. However, I'd like to suggest you here, don't provide too much information about yourself. Because you don't know what type of person they are and they might take wrong advantages of this.

Find a common topic that you both can talk about

❝Share out similarities, Celebrate our differences.❞
— M. Scott Peck
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Start with a small talk by bringing up a topic that both of you have in common. Commenting on the weather and location is always a good way to start a conversation. Ask about their school and office, but don't ask about the marks and salary they get, it may make them feel uncomfortable. Talk about the trending news or something fun which the participant enjoy thoroughly. However, smile and laugh and just simply respond naturally to the situations.

Be funny but don't make fun of others

❝Respect people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them.❞
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Everyone likes light conversation and a good laughter and laughing make others feel comfortable. You don't have to do a stand-up comedy and share funny stories to break the ice and start a conversation. Sometimes, we got carried away and unintentionally say things or make jokes which shouldn't be done in the first place to hurt others. Share some clever jokes that are short and make sure others don't feel uncomfortable with it. While being funny, make sure that you respect people's feelings and don't personally comment on anybody else, it could hurt their sentiments.

Listening is a part of conversation

❝Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you.
Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you. ❞
— Unknown
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A conversation includes two or more people. If a person thinks you're talking just to hear your voice, he/she will feel disinterested immediately. So try to avoid focusing on own and saying 'I, Me, Myself' always. Listening is also a part of a conversation. Let them express their point of views or thoughts. It will make them feel that their thoughts are important as well.

Ask for assistance or Offer Assistance (Help)

❝Helping one person might not change the whole world, but it could change the world for one person.❞
— Unknown
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Who doesn't need little help in need? Starting a conversation doesn't always mean to talk with people we meet at parties or business meetings. There are lots of people we meet in our daily life. Such as standing in a queue or traveling in a public transport or even those who need help with directions, help the needy in the best way possible. They might be strangers but also are humans, and helping each other in needs can make the world a better place. You can turn a total stranger into a friend just by helping or making them feel you care.

Conversation in a group

❝Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.❞
— Amy Poehler
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When you're having a group conversation, choose a topic that every person in the group can take part in. Don't just focus on only one or two people, the others will feel left out. The safest conversation starters you can choose is a finding a common topic. Give some space to others to take part in and listen to their stories as well.

Conversation with colleagues/Officials

❝Chance made us colleagues, Hearts made us friends.❞
— Unknown
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Starting a conversation with a colleague or higher authorities can be tricker than starting a conversation with a potential love interest or friend. Keep it professional if it is possible because there are some lines that shouldn't be crossed in a workplace. If you're getting well along with your co-workers then you may ask about their family and health. If both of you two work together then you can look forward to hanging out on weekends.

End the conversation

❝Don't hesitate to goodbye! It's necessary to meeting again and again.❞
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Even when you're enjoying the conversation, you sometimes have to end it before the other person is ready, because you're working or running errands. A great way to end a conversation is being polite and end it with a positive comment. Say 'thank you and it was a pleasure to meet them' and then bid your goodbye. However, if you have made a good connection, then you may ask for contact information such as phone number or e-mail address to them.

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