Expectations and hopes are our worst enemies. When we say that our life is ruined we mean our expectations, and only them. We are creating an imaginary world around us and then we are very surprised when it falls apart.

I experienced this. Hopping for the best, and then facing reality. But every time this illusion is destroyed next time you are expecting less, every time you become more and more realistic. As I noticed people even can disappoint in each other because having their own wrong image of one person, and why? Again expectations and hopes.

Take off your pink sunglasses until they didn't crash with the glasses inside and hurt you really bad.