If people asked me what is the vividest and brightest memory of my teens, I’m not sure about the answer I’d feed back. I like thinking I’m not such a negative person, I’ve always done my best to think positively in every situation, without getting demoralized or even depressed by the events.
But I’m afraid it’s not always so easy and taken for granted as people may think…
While growing up, it is quite “normal” – I suppose – having problems with ourselves, or things like acute pent-up anxiety and sociophobia; we are often not listened to, and this gets our mood even worse, as people can’t understand how serious our problems could be.
An example? Let’s talk about me: I get always oftener taken by anxiety attacks; my breath getting heavier, my heart beating too fast, tears impossible to choke back… It is in those moments that I get stuck in this unbearable mood made of depression and loneliness.
Anxiety is usually caused by our certainty to not feel up to something, maybe a task we are assigned by other people; this leads to that hateful fear to make mistakes and disappoint the others, which fosters our anxiety.
This is my only real problem; always had, never gone away.
But there’s also something good: as I said before, I’m always quite positive, and if there something I’ve learnt in my life, it’s how to reduce this kind of attacks, and feel better with myself; that’s what I want to talk about in this article, as I think I could give some useful tips: how to survive anxiety attacks, and live better with this problem.

1. Music

We all know that music is of course a very advantageous way to separate our minds just for a moment from the world we live in; our favorite bands or singers can easily take us away and let us feel lighter than before while listening to a couple of songs which impede us from thinking. If you’re feeling stressed, annoyed by something – or someone – just try to concentrate on a particular song, the one you prefer, and sing it under your breath, or go listening to it immediately: the most important thing is pushing away the source of our worries.

2. Anger

While we get caught by an anxiety attack, the prevalent emotion which overwhelms us is usually sadness: it blurs our minds, and in that moment we aren’t able to think of something good, as we lose control; this is the main reason why anxiety attacks beat us down so violently.
But there’s another emotion we should try to substitute, and it’s Anger. Whether we’re angry we have more control of ourselves than when we are sad, and we can think more clearly, bouncing back faster than usual. We can organize better our ideas, and let the attack rapidly.
Yes, but… why should we be angry? And with whom? I’m now talking in particular to those people who have an extreme lack of self-confidence: if your anxiety attacks are caused by people around you, don’t you think it’s always your fault, because it isn’t; people who cause anxiety attacks to others is taking them for granted, and can’t understand how big the problem is for somebody. So start thinking of you just as a normal, nice person, but surrounded by wrong people.

3. Get away from the problem

You’re standing there, feeling that something starts going wrong, and you recognize that familiar and thorny sensation which is growing up within you: the anxiety attack is coming back, what do you do?
First of all, don’t panic, just leave: are you at home? Watching TV or speaking with your parents, or maybe you’re outside with your friends, but you don’t feel like you really want to speak with them about your problem, and there’s this insidious issue that comes out, with you starting feeling so bad. The better thing you can do in these cases is simply distancing yourself from them, tell them an excuse and find a place where you can cool down.
When it happens to me – and I’m at home – I simply go have a shower; if you’re there with friends, maybe not really close ones, so that you prefer not speaking of your problem, you’ll be better find an excuse like someone who’s calling you and you really can’t miss that call. Don’t you forget – anyway – it’s always important to have someone you can speak with, and this is our following step.

4. Lean on friends

Not all of us have that one friend – or more – we would say everything of us – neither I have – but it is necessary to find a person who’ll listen to us, and give us hints to help in order to remind us we are not alone.
If you think you really can’t find this kind of person, or you are not in the mood of telling someone else your own business, you could even think to start writing a diary. Not necessarily a diary you have to keep up to date every day, just when you feel like anxiety is really going to kill you.
In any case, the most important thing to remember is that you should never mistake your parents for this kind of people we’re looking for: I’m not telling you to not speaking of this to them, just know they are not your friends, and – both if your relationship with them is good or not – you can’t tell EVERYTHING to them; if you get on well with your family and feel safe with them, It will surely be a good idea to let them know your situation, anyway this is up to you.

5. Never getting apathetic

Whatever your situation is, we must be sure to know how to react, in order to not getting depressed and start not caring. To do this we need at least a minimum of optimism to find anything that could cheer us up: do you like doing a certain thing? Then go doing it! Whatever it is, drawing, singing, reading, dancing, watching TV series… just let your passions run wild, and remember that – if you really face your life with the right amount of optimism and intelligence, time will always sort out everything.

I really hope this little “guide” could help someone live with this common problem; maybe I’ve just lost my time by writing an incredible amount of useless words that in my mind could appear useful, and you have so many better methods to tolerate anxiety attacks; in any case, if you think I offended you or hurt your feelings, please know that I absolutely didn’t mean to do that, and in that case I feel sorry.
If you want to tell me something or have some questions, please write me without problems! And of course I'll accept both criticisms and good comments, feel free to let me know what you sincerely think of this guide!

By everyone, and thank you for reading!