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"Self love is the source of all other loves." - Pierre Corneille

Self love is one of those things that doesn't happen over night... and once you learn how to truly love yourself, it's a constant battle. The truth is, society will always try to convince us that we are not good enough-- That our teeth can be straighter, our waists smaller, our lips larger, and so on. The irony of all this is that there are so many people who go to great lengths to fit this mold of perfection, only to still be miserable with themselves in the end.

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The truth is, true beauty comes from within. I know it sounds like something that your mother would tell you, but its true. Perhaps maybe right now you are going through a tough time, but remember that pain only comes into your life to teach you something. For now, here are a few things to keep in mind while on your self-love journey:

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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1. You are beautiful and unique in your own way. There is no one else on this entire planet who is like you! If you see a picture of a beautiful woman, remember that she is beautiful in her own way the same way you are beautiful in yours. Its like trying to compare lillies and roses... both are fragrant and absolutely beautiful... yet entirely unique.

Look in the Mirror

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2. When was the last time you really took a good look in the mirror? The last time you gazed into your own eyes? Or looked at your lips, caressed your own cheeks? Look in the mirror, and pick a feature about yourself that you really like. Focus for a moment on that. Tell yourself what you like about it. At first this practice feels strange, but if you do it regularly you will soon start loving more and more things about yourself. If you are having an off day, and for some reason can't find anything, pick a feature and fake it until you make it. Its incredible what our minds can convince us. The things we tell ourselves often have a way of becoming our reality.

Spend Time Alone

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3. It is so important to spend plenty of time getting to know yourself. In this life, you will only make it if you learn how to be your own best friend. The reason why this is crucial for people struggling with self-image is because it sets a solid emotional foundation. People who really know themselves are not shaken by the opinions of others. They do not need validation from others to feel special or beautiful. They know they have more to offer than a beautiful shell, which in time will fade anyway.

Stay Away From Negative People

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4. If a particular person is making you feel uncomfortable with who you are, its best to steer clear of them. This includes friends and family members! Protect your precious energy at all costs. Surround yourself with people who make you feel proud to be who you are. If you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't make you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world... you need to let them go. Remember, you are a beautiful, magical being and only worthy of those who can see it.

Revamp Your Look

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5. Is there a hairstyle you've been dying to have but don't know if you can pull it off? Or a makeup look you’re dying to try? Sometimes we feel less than our best because we are overdue for a little change! Youtube has sooo many tutorials for revamping your look without breaking the bank! Here is a vid that can give you some more ideas on how to reinvent yourself:

If you follow these steps, I promise you will begin to feel a lot better! Truly loving yourself is a battle that you must fight every day. Some days, its easy, and other days, it feels like the battle of your life. Just remember, that every single human being on this planet has struggled with self-love. You are never alone. Never.

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Thank you for reading!

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xo Kim