WE HAVE TO FOLLOW OUR HEARTS EVEN WHE IT'S SCARY...

ONE OF THE MOST COMMON QUESTIONS I GET FROM FRIENDS WHO ARE IN RELATIONSHIPS IS WHETHER THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS “RIGHT.” THOUGH I'M NEVER ABLE TO GIVE A DEFINITIVE ANSWER, I FINALLY REALIZED THE BEST THING TO DO IS JUST TELL THEM MY OWN EXPERIENCE ANSWERING THIS QUESTION AND STAY OUT OF THEIR DECISION MAKING PROCESS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

AT THE END OF THE DAY, ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT.

IT WAS ALSO TRUE FOR BLOGGER JORDAN REID. IN HER POST “WHEN NOTHING (BUT EVERYTHING) IS WRONG” JORDAN TALKS ABOUT WALKING AWAY FROM WHAT WAS, IN MANY WAYS, A GREAT RELATIONSHIP EVEN WHEN THE UNCERTAINTY AND LONELINESS AHEAD SEEMED UNMANAGEABLE.

“TRUTH? I KIND OF LOST IT. I PICTURED MYSELF BACK IN THE RELATIONSHIP, BACK IN MY JOB, MAYBE NOT GREAT BUT CERTAINLY NOT ALONE AND PROBABLY NOT SO SAD IT HURT TO OPEN MY EYES IN THE MORNING, AND JUST ABOUT WANTED TO COLLAPSE THROUGH THE FLOOR AT THE MESS I HAD MADE OF MY FUTURE. I CONVINCED MYSELF THAT OUR RELATIONSHIP HAD BEEN PERFECTLY FINE (AFTER ALL, IT WAS DIFFICULT FOR ME TO PUT A FINGER ON WHAT HAD BEEN “WRONG” IN THE FIRST PLACE), AND THAT I HAD JUST BEEN A WHINY, DISSATISFIED, IMPOSSIBLE-TO-PLEASE KID WHO THOUGHT THERE WERE BETTER THINGS OUT THERE WHEN REALLY, THERE WEREN’T. GUESS WHAT? THERE ARE BETTER THINGS OUT THERE.”

IT’S NOT ALWAYS EASY OR 100% CLEAR AT THE TIME, BUT WHEN YOU LISTEN TO AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART (OR GUT OR INTUITION OR LITTLE VOICE, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL IT), I TRULY BELIEVE THE UNIVERSE REWARDS YOU. FOR JORDAN, LEAVING THAT RELATIONSHIP ALLOWED HER TO FIND HER HUSBAND AND SHE HAS STARTED A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY AND CAREER AS A WRITER. FOR ME, LEAVING MY FIRST RELATIONSHIP/BEST FRIEND ALLOWED ME TO FINALLY GET TO KNOW MYSELF AND EXPERIENCE SEVERAL SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS AND BREAKUPS THAT SHAPED MY LIFE. BEING SINGLE, I DIDN'T HAVE TO THINK TWICE ABOUT TAKING BIG RISKS IN MY LIFE (TRAVELING TO AFRICA, MOVING TO A NEW HOUSE, STARTING AN ONG TO HELP MY COUNTRY).

I WOULDN'T BE WHERE I AM NOW WITHOUT THAT TOTAL FREEDOM, AND IT CAME FROM LETTING GO, AS DIFFICULT AS IT WAS AT THE TIME. HOPEFULLY IT HELPS TO HEAR STORIES FROM PEOPLE WHO’VE BEEN AT THE VERY DIFFICULT CROSSROADS OF LETTING GO AND HOLDING ON. STAY STRONG!

HERE'S A PLAYLIST TO THINK ABOUT IT. A PLAYLIST TO FEEL SAD, TO FEEL GOOD, TO FEEL WHATEVER YOU WANT TO FEEL IN ORDER TO START "THE HEALING" OR "THE LETTING GO" PROCESS: https://youtu.be/liFpl9atUgY

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