"care about what other people think and you'll always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

so i know how hard it is to not care what others think, we've all been there and we all wish we could be confident and careless 24/7 but it's okay to care what other people think and it's totally understandable to want approval from peers especially when you are young

at the end of the day it's human nature to want to be accepted and liked but of course this leads to a lot of worrying about what other people are thinking. this kind of worrying will have an incredibly negative effect on you bc it will end up with an inability to feel at ease with yourself around others.

PLS DO NOT LET OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS STOP YOU FROM LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST

basically, i just hope this article makes you feel a little bit better when it comes to your constant worries of how others view you so here we go, these are reasons you shouldn't care what other people think of you:

1. YOU WILL NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE.
i'm telling you now, there is no way you will be able to make every single person like you, or think you're pretty or cool or whatever
everyone has different opinions and what is "cool" to one person could be totally weird to another
so if you are acting a certain way just to make everyone like you, you're never gonna be truly happy.

2. ITS NOT THEIR LIFE
tbh you're life isn't any of their business. everyone is entitled to their opinion, of course.
BUT
others opinions cannot change what you are worth unless you allow them to!
it's you're life, baby. do what you want.

3. MOST PEOPLE ARE PROBABLY TOO BUSY WORRYING WHAT OTHERS THINK OF THEM TO JUDGE EVERY SMALL THING ABOUT YOU
sounds silly but, while you're worrying about that huge spot on your face, the person that just walked past didn't even notice it bc they were worrying about the spot that you didn't notice
we notice things about ourself that nobody else even see's so while you're worrying about the way you're nose looks, someone else is thinking the same about their hips and they haven't even noticed what you're insecure about
AND
even if they aren't worrying about what others think, most people generally don't tend to think outside of themselves anyway so unless you affect their life they probably don't spend much time thinking about you at all

4. IT WILL STOP YOU ACHIEVING ANY AMBITIONS OR DREAMS
that constant worrying of what others think will prevent you taking risks and going where you need to in life. unfortunately you will have to do things that won't meet everyone's standards in life and that's okay. you keep doing you boo boo. there will be situations that will make you so nervous bc other people might judge you, but if you take that risk and achieve, it will be so worth it. "we regret the risks we didn't take"

5. YOU'RE THE ONE IT EFFECTS
you're the one that's going to have to deal with the consequences. when people give you their opinion or a suggestion on something, realistically they probably haven't thought about the consequences bc they're not the ones who will be dealing with the end result, you are. so follow you're gut instinct and what you want to do. then if you have to learn from a mistake, so be it, but at least you know that you went with you're heart and can truly learn from it.

6. WE CHANGE OUR MINDS CONSTANTLY
our thoughts are constantly changing. a persons thoughts, ideas and views can change on a regular basis. therefore if someone doesn't think you're "cool" now, they're thoughts will probably change meaning their opinion seriously doesn't matter.
for example: people's thoughts are like fashion, constantly changing, even if you're style isn't very popular now, it could be in a few months.
BUT DARLING WEAR WHAT YOU WANT NO MATTER IF ITS "FASHIONABLE" OR NOT!!

7. ONLY YOU KNOW WHATS BEST FOR YOU
no one else knows what's best for you better than you do! so do what you want and what's best for you, not what's best for anyone else bc we are all so beautifully different. even if you do make a mistake, it just means you've learnt a lesson from it. everybody makes mistakes, it's human nature. just go with you're gut instinct on what's best for you and everything will be good in the end

8. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT
so i kinda mentioned this in the last point but don't do what's best for someone else, do the best thing for you! what's good for one person may not actually be good for you at all, so if you do something bc that's what everyone else was doing, you may end up worse than you would have if you'd just gone with what you wanted. we are all completely unique and that's the beauty of it

9. THE NEED TO BE LIKED WILL PUT PEOPLE OFF
the more you obsess and worry over being liked it's going to effect the way you behave and generally people that want to be liked end up becoming so submissive others are turned off. to put it bluntly - no one likes an arse lick.
and if you're constantly copying others to fit in, no ones gonna rate that anyways so just be who you want to be wether they like it or not.
it's "cooler" to be original. stand out, be who you are and be proud. let that confidence shine so bright that people can't physically can't bring you down bc they're too blinded by your glow.

10. YOU WILL KEEP MEETING THE WRONG PEOPLE
the more you act like someone else just to fit in, the more time spent around the wrong people.
you can't attract the right people for you, if you're not truly being yourself. once you stop worrying about what others think and just be yourself you will find your people gravitating towards you.

11. LIFE IS TOO SHORT
#YOLO lol cringe but seriously, you have one life and you don't know how long it's going to be. if you died tomorrow would you truly be happy knowing you'd lived you're whole life worrying about what others thought instead of doing more of what makes you happy?you're definitely not gonna see those people once you're dead and tbh you probably won't even see them in a year so why let their opinion effect the way you life your life?

12. THEY ARE WRONG
people can be horrible. you learn this as you go through life, some people are just idiots.
honestly, if someone is willing to judge you then i personally wouldn't value their opinion anyway. the only opinions that should matter to you are the ones who truly know you and care about you. the ones who know exactly what you're like yet love you anyway. they are the opinions that matter, not that "cool" girl or boy at school who doesn't really know you yet is shallow enough to judge you.

It's hard i know, but try, please bloody try not to give a crap. it will make you so much happier and you will be able to live such a fuller life knowing the opinions of others cannot hinder you. don't let yourself be controlled by someone else's standards, that's no way of life. don't become so obsessed with others opinions you end up forgetting your own.

until next time,
jenna xxx

"an entire sea of water can't sink a ship unless it gets inside. the negativity of the world can't put you down unless you allow it to get inside."

YOUR TIME IS LIMITED; SO DON'T WASTE IT LIVING SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE. DON'T BE TRAPPED BY DOGMA, WHICH IS LIVING WITH THE RESULTS OF OTHER PEOPLES THINKING. DON'T LET THE NOISE OF OTHERS DROWN OUT YOUR OWN INNER VOICE - STEVE JOBS