So, I turn 30 years old next month and even though Ive been making jokes about dreading it all year, the truth that I've never known such absolute peace and inner happiness as I do now. Which is surprising, in a way, because I literally haven't achieved anything that I thought I would've by 30! I'm single, divorced in fact, no kids, no degree, still renting, still working for far less money than I deserve and nowhere near having the perfect body I've always dreamed of!

Ten years ago, I was sure that I had met the love of my life, which is why I married him! Four years down the line, I found out that he'd been unfaithful and I left him. It took many years for me to let go of the resentment I harboured towards him. My next relationship ended up being a very emotionally abusive one. When I finally got out, I suffered from a lot of anxiety and even some agoraphobia for about a year.

In the past year, however, I've spent a lot of time on my own and have truly learned to love every single inch of myself, probably for the first time ever in my life. I look in the mirror everyday and see a beautiful, amazing woman that I wouldn't want to change in one single way. I finally know my true worth and the worth of all the people in my life that have been there with me through it all.

I still hope to find true love, again! And to start a family of my own. But suddenly, Im not worried at all about when or where it'll happen. I know that all of the things I want and deserve will come to me in time. I'm also currently three years into my psychology degree and eventually hope to help others find the same kind of peace I'm only realising, myself, now.

Obviously, everyone struggles to find happiness in their lives, but I think as women, we are especially hard on ourselves. So the last thought I want to leave you with is this: if you are a women who has been struggling your whole life to achieve perfection, killing yourself to try to be everything at once! Just know that I was doing the same, for so many years. And it turns out that when I finally felt like the woman I'd always wanted to be, it had nothing to do with being or looking perfect. I am so far from perfect. But I am absolutely, 100% me and I wouldn't trade that for the world.