How to Be Confident

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It's easy to say, "I'm confident in who I am," and not actually be. It's easy to not be confident in yourself and want other peoples' lives because you think they are better than you. Here's how to be true with yourself, stop caring, and be confident:

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F*ck The Bad Vibes

"What people think of you has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them." -Jen Sincero, author of "You Are A Badass"

Your reputation is not something you should be worried about. People will gossip! They waste time while you can be doing something useful with who you are. Getting over the fact that people will always have an opinion is not an easy task. But, it's totally worth it if it means you can be free from thinking that you always need acceptance and approval- because you don't need it!

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You are you. Do what works for you, and stop worrying about everyone else- you aren't them.

Take Chances, Make Opportunities

Take chances! In life, there will be open and closed metaphorical doors to walk into and to open. If you never go for anything, you'll never have anything! There's no point in living life if you don't do anything with it. The average person lives till 80, so why have 80 years of "what if?"s, when you can have a lifetime of "remember when..?"s If you open the closed doors, if you walk through the open ones, you will feel better knowing that you tried, that you did it- not that you wonder why you didn't.

Be You!

This is something people will call cliche, something that's so dorky- but it's true! If you want to dance, dance at the school dance, take lessons, make choreography videos, do what makes you happy! You are your worst critic and your best coach. You are the only one who can truly know what will be good or bad for you. If you love something, or you have an interest in it, go for it! Don't be afraid to be judged. Don't be afraid to face rejection- from a crush or a job. Don't be afraid. (Period.)

This isn't a step-by-step way to become the best you can be. You are your own person, and I don't know what makes you happy.

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My point here is: Stop caring about others' opinions because then you're wasting time on something that isn't your success and happiness. Go for it and stop wondering if you should. And be you, because you are one original, amazing, fan-f*cking-tastic person.

-Ashlynn. xo