Hey there

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This is my first time speaking my thoughts and ideas on a public site.

But I recently came to a realization .... well not really I have known this for a while but like many of us never really put what I learned into practice.

And yes by the title you probably already know what I am going to be talking about and that is learning to accept yourself.

Now before I go any further I'd just like to say please take what I say with a grain of salt. This is simply my own thoughts and opinions being expressed

So back to my point. Learning to accept one self is not easy

It's something that I believe everyone or most people learn as they go along, but also something that at one point of their lives or most of their lives struggle with. I personally have struggled with this literally my entire life or at least the amount of life I've lived so far.

It wasn't always like this though, I do remember a time very very very very long ago ... when I was still just a small kid (though really I still consider myself a small kid even now). But around the time I was 5-6 years old I'd say that I was in a pretty good stand point where I could say that I was accepting of myself.

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Of course I was just a small child. And children for the most part have very little awareness to the way the world is around them. And by that I mean that children for the most part have little if any at all interest into what "society" or the current "world" says that they should be like or act like. Children act and express how they feel without a care if someone will be offended, or if they seem odd. They just are themselves because that is the natural thing to be.

However growing up in today's society often strays us from this very simple concept. Trends are always in your face, the pressure to appear cool and to put up a facade of what we should be and how we should act sometimes consumes us.

In all this we forget that the first person we should be trying to impress is none other than ourselves. More than anything we should be trying to be true to ourselves.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind
B.M. Baruch

I happened to find this quote just the other day

I couldn't have summed it up better than this, and it's so true. No matter who you are, what you act like, what you decide to do, etc. The people who really care and matter in your life will always be by your side and support you through thick and thin.

So where am I going with this?

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Well like I said my whole life I struggled a lot with accepting myself, and I'm not saying that I have now completely accepted myself either because I don't want to be a hypocrite but I have come to understand the importance of self accepting.

Most of my life I admit that I lived it trying to please people. Explaining myself to people. Giving the most of myself to other people.

Often times these people weren't satisfied, no matter what I did or said. Like often times is the case. I began to loose a lot of self confidence and began to hate myself

Why was it that everything I did wasn't good enough?

Good enough for who?
Because if I was being honest with myself, the reason why I could never be "good enough" to other people was because I wasn't the person they wanted me to be. I would never be able to fit into the little tiny box that they wanted me to live in. I am me. And the me that I was, was good enough for me, however at the time I didn't know it yet

Why wasn't I pretty like her?

Again, pretty by whose standards? Society always paints a picture of beauty as a black and white standard. Two very extremes of beauty and non- beauty. When realistically speaking beauty is a relative term. Beauty can be defined in so many different ways. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.

I myself have struggled with this and still do but I've also come to realize (when I'm not being over emotional and dramatic) that the people who are even worth spending your time with, will always find you beautiful no matter what.

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No one can make you feel less than if you don't give them the power to

Once you learn to be confident with yourself and your personality your physical beauty will begin to show even more. Even if you don't think you are beautiful physically, you will be to someone who sees your inner confidence

And quiet frankly why would you ever want to spend your time with someone who only cares about things superficially?

Of course this like many other things take time and practice so instead of comparing and beating yourself up for not being able to be a particular height or being slim or curvy or whatever the case may be.

Just love you for you

You owe that much to yourself

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Why was I always being weird?

What is weird?

What is normal?

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There is no such thing as normal. People all over the world have their own version of normal. (People who travel or been to another country know this very well)

Normal and weird are two other very relative terms.

Why blend in with the crowd. We were all made different for a reason. We are all our own person, so why try to be like someone else.

It never works to be someone else other than you. And I always found it to be too much work, and the source of all my stress or at least half of my stress. No matter how hard you try, it will never be able to fill your emptiness. That hole in you that you desperately try to fill in and hide from people it will eventually show.

Or even if it doesn't it will take a toll on you both emotionally, mentally and sometimes even physically.

It's not healthy for anyone.

But I'm not saying it's anything easy to do. Some people are born with confidence (some I might add with a little too much) But I always admired those people because regardless if they had people who criticized they always did what they felt like doing and that is the one thing I would like to copy from people if anything.

Learning to love myself. Learning the self confidence they had for myself. Learning to accept the way I am.

Once you do people who are good for you will eventually come into your life. People who truly care for you and love you for you too will come into your grasp. Not only that but you become more relaxed because the only person that would ever have any expectations of you would be you.

So for those people who are like me that struggle to appreciate themselves, it's not easy to change this habit but little by little lets start to love ourselves more.

Know that the right people would never ask you to change the way you are.

You are important, You are beautiful, You are Powerful.

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Hope this made sense, I know its long I tried to keep it as short as possible but apparently I failed =_= oh well.

Hopefully some of you found this helpful or interesting

Lots of Love

--- KMT