Okay, before I start, I just want to ask you, to please either read this whole article or stop now. If you read only half I'll sound like an arsehole, saying that, if you do finish reading this article and still think I'm an arsehole, please message me, because I'd love to talk to you about it so you could educate me. Also, I am speaking on my own behalf and on how I feel. Others feel differently and that's fab. Love x


So, gender, what even is it? Does it even exist? To me, no.

The first time I thought about gender was when I was about 13 (I'm 16 now.) I read something about transgender people and didn't understand. Listen, I didn't understand and I didn't know why but, I didn't care- I told myself I would never be transphobic because, frankly that's dumb, and I don't need to understand, just accept it. I couldn't understand how someone could identify as a gender different from their assigned one. I thought about it, a lot actually, and I came to the conclusion that I'm not confused by transness, but gender.

I don't understand gender. What does it mean to identify with a Gender? What boxes need to be ticked? Because growing up, like a lot of people, girls liked princesses and pink and flowers- and boys liked racing cars and blue and superheroes.

To be a girl you don't have to like princesses, pink and flowers. To be a boy, you don't need to like racing cars, blue and superheroes. That's ridiculous.

I don't understand what it means to be a boy or a girl. But before I thought about it I was okay with being called a girl. Being referred to as "she" was fine because I am a lot further on the female side of the spectrum. So yes, I guess I am nonbinary, technically, but that isn't a big deal to me. When I first realised this I honestly just thought "okay, that's that" and moved on. I haven't actually told anyone because I, personally, don't feel the need to.

So, to conclude, I don't understand gender. I don't understand why it's such a big thing in today's society. I'm not sure I will. That's okay. I am myself and it sounds cliché as hell but I don't need a box, I like that. Some people are comforted by boxes. I am not.

Love, Katelyn

please, please, please message me or comment if you want to- I want to learn and be aware if I have said anything offensive. I've never written anything like this before.

Love, Love, Love x