So, you have just gone through a breakup. I am really sorry that this happened. I am not going to lie to you and say it is an easy or a quick process to move on from the person you were dating, but it will teach you a lot about yourself.

I recently went through a breakup with the first person i ever really fell in love with. This person was the first guy I was ever my full self around. I did not sugar coat my personality around them. They broke up with me without giving any reasoning. It was completely out of nowhere and I felt so lost and upset. I kept my composure and walked away. I lost it once I was out of sight and earshot of them. I had not felt that way before, genuine heartbreak. i felt like staying home from school for a month, just so i did not have to face that person. That person who just left me wondering what I did wrong.

I did not do anything wrong.

They made it out to make me believe it was MY fault. They told my friends that I was distrusting, unromantic, my personality was ''too much to handle"

I went home that day and told my mom. I asked to stay home. I asked if i could hide from my problem instead of facing it. What my mother said will stick with me forever.

"What will one day do? It will make you want another day off. Face your problem now instead of later. Do not give them the satisfaction of knowing that you are upset over this."

Even though I felt like absolute shit, I did my makeup, my hair, wore my good jeans, and went to school. Seeing him made my heart drop, but I kept my cool and ignored the fact that he was right next to me. I am not saying that I ignored how upset I was. Never ignore your feelings. I cried, I was upset, I hated the situation I was in. I am not saying I acted like I was strong.

I am saying that I did not let the negativity of the situation get the best of me. You do not have do dig yourself out of a hole if you don't fall in one in the first place. I am saying that I did not let one person put a pause on my whole life.

I learned a lot about myself from this breakup. I learned that I am a hell of a lot stronger than I thought. I learned that spending time with your friends is so much more fun when you are not texting your significant other the whole time. I learned that I can paint. I learned that I want to work on myself as a person before I share my life with someone else. Sometimes independence is bliss. I learned that I really love doing puzzles. I learned how to move on.

You will see the sun again. You will smile again. You will find someone new again at some point.

You are allowed to cry, you do not have to act like you are strong all the time. You are allowed to be upset, but you will move on. Do not let someone stop you from living and loving your life.