There will never be a time in your life that you will say “Things are finally going the way I want” because you are lying to yourself. Things may seem good but they are never truly how you want.

If you live your life measuring your self content by how well things go according to plan you will be a deeply unhappy individual. Learning to take things how they come is a great way to reconcile yourself and your everyday choices. Infinitesimally will things be how you want and if they are; awesome, great, congrats. If they aren’t, love it. Loving small things will increase your ability to value the bigger things.

If you know what you’re looking for you’ll know what you’re looking at. If you’re looking for happiness look at yourself and your daily habits. If they suck, FIX THEM. If they’re great, go to a more spiritual depth. Do yoga, meditate, drink loose leaf tea/ black coffee. All the new-age hipstery bullshit.

Lastly, ALWAYS, always, always, always put your happiness first. If you aren’t happy with yourself there is a huge problem that will only grow. Making others happy will only last for so long. When you’ve exhausted yourself of making others happy more than yourself you are stuck in a hole that you dug yourself and you are only positioning your gravestone now.