I used to reflect back a lot on previous social occasions. Wondering about some of the feedback I was getting. I realized that a good memory is a must have. I began to remember previous incidents which help show the character of people ( instances they had forgotten or had chosen to forget ) There is a lot of reinvention of self. I'm a great believer in reinvention, if it only applies to that particular person. If people get together and reinvent as a group, then I disagree (because among the group there can be some serious offenders. The group may choose to overlook these) Then sometime in the future seriously take to task someone for a much lesser offence. This equates to life being a popularity contest. If life is a contest then there are going to be winners and losers. I believe it is best to respond as an individual.