A fairly common social issue people have is that they're not sure how to make friends and put together a social life for themselves.
so if you've moved to a new city and don't know very many people yet,your old friends have slowly been dropping out of the picture (moving away, busy with work or a new family, etc.) and haven't been replaced by new ones or A large chunk of their social circle disappeared overnight, like everyone graduated from university and most of their friends moved out of the city then you better read the article to the end .
Making new friends can be intimidating, but it’s definitely rewarding. After all, friends form a big part of our life for most of us. They are the ones who walk through life together, share our ups and downs, and pains and joys. Without friends, life wouldn’t be the same at all. We wouldn’t be who we are if not for them.
If you are looking to make new friends, you have to get clear on what kind of friends you want to make. Broadly speaking, there are 3 types of friends:
1) “Hi-Bye” friends: These are the ones you see at school/work because the context calls for it. You say hi when you see each other and you say bye at the end of the day, but that’s about it. The relationship never lasts when the context is removed, i.e., when you graduate from school or leave the workplace.
2)Regular friends: Social, activity buddies you meet up every now and then to catch up or hang out with. You can generally talk about regular topics under the sun.
3)True, soul friends (or best friends):. People you can talk anything and everything with. You may or may not meet up every day, but it doesn’t matter as the strength of your friendship is not determined by how frequently you meet up — it’s more than that. These are the friends you can trust to be there for you whenever you need them, and they will go the extra mile for you.
Here are my 4 personal tips to get new friends:
1. Realize your fear is in your head: The first step is to develop a healthy mental image of meeting new people. Some of us see meeting new people as a scary event. We are concerned about making a good impression, whether the other person will like us, how to keep the conversation going, and so on. The more we think about it, the scarier it seems. This initial apprehension develops into a mental fear, which takes a life of its own and unknowingly blocks us from making new friends. Shyness toward others is actually a result of fear.
Truth be told, they are just as scared as you are. The remaining 1% are people who recognize that a relationship is built on way stronger values than specific words or things said/done during just one encounter. Even if there are people who do judge you based on what you do/say, are these people you want to be friends with? I think not.
2. Start small with people you know:Reach out to acquaintances. Have any hi-bye type friends from earlier years? Or friends you lost touch with over time? Drop a friendly SMS and say hi. Ask for a meetup when they are free. See if there are opportunities to reconnect,
Get to know your friends’ friends. You can join them in their outings or just ask your friend to introduce you to them. If you are comfortable with your friends, there’s a good chance you will be comfortable with their friends too,Accept invitations to go out. I have friends who rarely go out. When asked out, they reject majority of the invites because they rather stay at home. As a result, their social circles are limited. If you want to have more friends, you have to step out of your comfort zone and go out more often. You can’t make more friends in real life if you stay at home!
3. Take the first step:Once you are out there with people around you, someone has to make the first move. If the other party doesn’t initiate a talk, take the first step to say hello. Get to know each other a little better! Share something about yourself, and then give the other party a chance to share about him/her.
4. Be open: a) Be open-minded. Don’t judge
b) Open your heart
When I make new friends, I open myself fully, with full faith that they are good people, with good hearts and good intentions. I notice that because I do that, it has helped me foster a lot of genuine relationships which are built on trust, love and faith. These meaningful relationships wouldn’t be possible if I had closed myself off at the onset.
5. Get to know the person: A friendship is about both you and the other person. Get to know the person as an individual. Here are some questions to consider:
1)What does he/she do?
2)What are his/her hobbies?
3)What has he/she been up to recently?
4)What are his/her upcoming priorities/goals?
5)What does he/she value the most?
6)What are his/her values?
7)What motivates/drives him/her?
8)What are his/her passions in life? Goals? Dreams?
well those was some tips to how to make new friends but the most important thing is to be yourself always ,and don't be sad if you tried to get close to someone and be friends and he didn't feel comfortable with you ,that's life you don't own everything you wanted
and tbh i had a little bit help from google translate as English isn't really my official language, to those who don't know me personally i'm from Egypt so i speak Egyptian so forgive me if i got mistaken in any word or anything ,
last thing to say: send me a postcard about your opinion of the article or even you want to be my friend ,i'm always here if you want to talk with someone ^^