What is the key to true happiness? A recent study done by the University of Harvard found what most of us happy people already knew. True happiness is defined by the meaningful relationships you have in your life. All my life I have formed meaningful relationships with people. Now that I am older, my relationships with the people around me have only become stronger and much more significant to my everyday life.
For me, forming meaningful relationships has always come naturally. Many people don't form meaningful relationships because all they want in life are buddies: a drinking buddy, a smoking buddy, a sex buddy, a partying buddy, etc. They have all these buddies but not any friends.
These buddies aren't allowed beyond their purpose and they have them like that, so that they don't have the opportunity to get any closer. You're just my smoking buddy, you don't need to know anything else about me beyond that. A lot of times, people take on these mentalities because they are afraid. They are afraid of letting someone in because that can give their buddy the potential to hurt them. This unfortunately leads to a very lonely and sad life.
Find people you can trust. To know if that person is worthy of your trust test them. Tell them something mildly personal, that you aren't too afraid of other people knowing, but that still has a sense of "it is not your business to tell." If a person can keep this, then they can typically handle more.
However, you also need to understand forgiveness. If you go looking to have a relationship with someone who is never going to fail you, then you are not looking for a human relationship. You can't expect a person to never fail you, that is impossible. Just like you will fail ,other people will too, so learn to forgive.
Every meaningful relationship I have had has had some form of tribulation to it. Truly tribulations that should have ended our friendships, but they didn't. We chose to fight we chose to forgive, and we came out stronger.
Test it out. Make some meaningful relationships, let people in, be open to failure and forgiveness. Do this and I am sure you too will lead a much happier life.